If you are in a relationship, then you should be comfortable enough with one another to communicate openly. It goes both ways. If you want her to pleasure you, then you need to show her how much you want to make her happy as well. Ask her what she would like and what you can do to make her feel as good as possible. When she sees how willing you are to pleasure her, then perhaps she will want to make you feel the same way on her own. If not, after asking her what it is she likes, you can discreetly slip into the conversation how good it feels to receive oral sex. You can even ask her if she minds and/or enjoys giving it. Make sure that she does not feel pressure when you discuss it. Make it as casual a conversation as possible. Good luck!