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Is a marriage worth saving if you have kids, but the communication between the spouses have died?


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I was married for 20 years. 3 children involved. We stayed together the children and divorced when they were a little bit older. 12, 14, 16. The kids did say that we should have never stayed together for as long as we did. We did more harm then good bc of all the fighting, and name calling. We just didn't see eye to eye on anything and everything. In my opionion and my children's as well. Do it before it gets unbearable. You don't want to have the kids subjected to all the stress, negitivity, arguing, and name calling. Its not fair to them, they weren't asked to be brought up in the world. Now that my kids are older. 23,21,18. I find my middle one doing alot of arguing and name calling to his girlfriend. Kids do as they were taught..


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I was married for 20 years. 3 children involved. We stayed together the children and divorced when they were a little bit older. 12, 14, 16. The kids did say that we should have never stayed together for as long as we did. We did more harm then good bc of all the fighting, and name calling. We just didn't see eye to eye on anything and everything. In my opionion and my children's as well. Do it before it gets unbearable. You don't want to have the kids subjected to all the stress, negitivity, arguing, and name calling. Its not fair to them, they weren't asked to be brought up in the world. Now that my kids are older. 23,21,18. I find my middle one doing alot of arguing and name calling to his girlfriend. Kids do as they were taught..


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All marriages are worth saving, not just because of children, but because we all need others in our lives. Even the the Lone-Ranger had Tonto, and I'm sure they had their ups and downs. Wish that I knew more about what's going on in your marital-togetherness. However being a man I have some Idea of what is going on, as us men ,in most cases, don't let our partners into our lives.. And,"Where Love abounds no closed Heart-Doors will be found". Perhaps, If you can understand just a little about our maleness then you can find a way to save the relationship. So I will make a feeble attempt to tell you what a man is and is not. A man first-off is about sex, and if he is willing to shed his armor and let you into his life, then a woman can teach him how to Love, if he's willing. When he first set eyes on you, Well, You were just body-parts that fired-up his sexuality, I know most women don,t want to hear this, but it was as true then as it is now. A woman on the other-hand isn't just about sex, she has more of a Holistic-Make-Up wanting commitment, trust and that tactile interaction that says, "I Love You", And is so vital within the relationship. I can get by with just sex, but a woman wants and needs to have more than just sex, Because where sex is quite enough for a man, it won't be enough for a woman's physical and emotional well-being. What turns us off must first start within our head, and that sexual turn off can take many forms. Do think about what I have said. I don't think that we fall-out of love, we just fall-out interest in the well-being of each other.


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