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I've been seeing a guy for a while and we have a ...

i've been seeing a guy for a while and we have a great time together. Intimacy is great too but he isn't affectionate. He doesn't just kiss for no reason or even kiss me buy. What's going on with this?


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Some guys just are not affectionate and blind to the fact that women need that certain special attention. You may have to shake him up and take the initiative by being the aggressor and  kissing him first.  You should also tell him exactly how you feel about it.

This is a communication tool that will help you learn how to communicate your needs positively and constructively without accusing the other person.


• Formula is …
“When you _______________, I feel __________________.”


• Example of what to say:
“When you don’t show me affection … I feel hurt.”


You are reclaiming your power and taking responsibility for your feelings by saying “I feel” rather than “You make me feel…”
You are also talking about the behavior – the not showing affection - rather than condemning the person.


• Example of what not to say:
“You never kiss me … and … you make me angry.”

 

 You can also try some of these tips in this free e book that will help you enhance a cold love life.

http://confidentlifestyle.com/Documents/enhancelovelife.pdf 

 

Good luck and best wishes. 


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Life is lessons in love. No regrets. 

I have to agree with Tiptop that some men are not so affectionate. The only way to change this is to be honest with your boyfriend and tell him that you want him to be a little more affectionate with you. I read an interesting article called Advice for the Romantically Challenged that might help him learn the ins and outs of being affectionate if he's willing to try. Hope this helps.


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You have to let it go coz he do not love you


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Life is lessons in love. No regrets. 

I found another great article that I think your boyfriend might get something from:

How to Make Affection a Habit

Hope it helps!


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Its never too late to ask.

The only way to know is by asking him out right. I could give you a gazillion reasons why but, none would be as factual as what you hear from him.


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Always be honest with yourself and others

I had a boyfriend like this once he did not like foreplay he just went for the gold and afterwards I felt so empty and alone.  He stayed overnight and on my way to work I broke up with him and it was one of the best things I have ever done. Why don't you talk to him and ask him why he's not more affectionate. I love hugging and kissing so I could not deal with someone who does not.


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