Carline(female 38) I have been in a relationship ...

You can continue in the relationship that lacks conflict between you and him but it doesn't sound like a very productive relationship. Do you love him? Are you in love with him? Do you see a future with him or do you want more? If you want more, it's time to end the relationship.

Hi,

I think what you are asking is do you want to exist in the mundane or do you want to truly live!!!  I can't imagine the mundane existance you must endure some days.  You are a young woman who deserves to love deeply and be loved in returned. 

     Passion is important, you need it to remember what it feels like to be truly alive.  If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten, it's just that simple.  Break lose and live agian.

Everyone deserves to feel cherished and desired. If you are not feeling that, it might be time to move on. But first, ask yourself, what have you done lately to show your partner the same? He might respond in a much better way than you had imagined. So give love a last chance, then cut your losses.

carline, do the two of you ever talk? I'm sure your not alone in your feelings about things. Are you together for the kids? What does yor "gut" say about the whole situation?

Don't marry the one you can live with, marry the one you can't live without.

No one ever says love is easy, make sure that you are doing your part in the relationship. Don't hold back love and emotions let them overflow and if they aren't returned then move on.

When two people love each other but just can't get it together when is enough enough?  when only one is trying

If you are in a relationship that by all indications is not going anywhere, appears to have no real love, no marraige after all this time, it is time to stop. This may seem hard because we don't like to move out from familiarity but what you have may not really be living. I do not know your spiritual condition but i implore you to seek answers in christ through prayer and an a faith-building church. I am an older gent and i can tell you that when tough decisions need to be made there is no better source for answers than in god's word. I wish you well and hope you find that special someone for life that sets your heart ablaze. One last nugget of truth for you- when you date be sure to check out his family and friends for this will speak volumes about him.