After listening to your story I truly believe that he's still in love with you, and that more than likely it's due to the longevity and underlying loyalty that you two share with one another. Even though people tend to divert from their current relationships and move on to new ones, doesn't necessarily mean that they are horrible people. It hurts of course, but its better that they leave to pursue their happiness, instead of staying around miserable, and making you miserable as well. You can base your judgements upon their character by the way they go about seeking the other relationships. Sometimes people have to check and see whether or not the grass is greener on the otherside, in order for them to appreciate whats in front of them. Although he is asking you if your willing to wait for him to get his thoughts in order, in my opinion its a sign that he has high morales and that he's being responsible about his feelings. But I also feel that your limitations or standards develope your own self worth. You dont ever have to be on someones layaway plan, ever! Irregardless of whether its for a short period of time, or a long period of time. But when love is involved, it's definately worth considering. You dont want to look back on this and have "what if" thoughts. In this situation 2 months isn't that bad, for the sake of love. In regards to giving him more time to see if he can get back with her, or if they can be friends is a definate NO NO! He's only catching the blues about the other woman because she doesn't want him, and it's something about being rejected that makes people try harder. He may be testing you to see if you'll fall victim to being desparate enough to accept him back under the circumstances of what they are going through. Stand firm, you come first, you've already let him venture off, but now its time to come back home, to reality. The positive aspect about him leaving, is definately the way he left... OPEN AND HONEST. And if I were you, I'd appreciate the fact that he has been open about his current emotions towards her. It just helps you to do what you may need to do, should he try to put you in a love triangle. Even though he claims to like her, I believe that you can use what he's told you about her treating him, to your advantage! Mess with his ego! Hate to say it, but guys deep down hate to feel played, but make him realize that he left a good thing, for someone who constantly found fault in him, and for what? What did he gain?Tell him that he may have needed a break, but he chose the wrong person to go on vacation with, and that you respect his honesty, but that he really needs to analyze the position that this whole situation has put you in. Tell him that you love him, but you love yourself more, and that he needs to step his game up to the level that your on, and let the other woman blow in the wind. I dont feel that you should give him anymore time to get over her. You have already given him 2 months of time to waste on someone who isn't half the woman that you are. Once you two get back into the realm of things, you'll know if you should stay or not, because the bond between you two will be so refreshing to him that he wont even think twice about her. If he adamantly insist on waiting for her, the answer is clear.... he just wants you on a leash. Keep your eyes open, and make him be a man of his word, by standing up for your values, and telling him " right now"...or "whenever I feel like it" ( which may be never) but shhhh. That's our secret. He'll work, but only if you make him. There's no in between anymore... he has to show you that he's serious.
Love, Honey
