Need help from the romantic guys out there or from ...

Need help from the romantic guys out there or from the women who care to share any secrets.

Just got out of a long term relationship where me and my girl drifted slowly about to the point where she has no feelings left for me.  According to her, this process started about two years ago.  I never saw this coming as she always seemed happy while we were together and was a major shock to my system.  We have been officially broken up since the last week or so of January and I still love her.  We have maintained a "friends" relationship for the last 3 or 4 months, but I want her back.  I mentioned I wanted her back and I still love her in passing a while ago and she said she was just done.  The love that was there is no longer there and she really doesn't want to give it another shot as she is just tired of "us"  Here is what I want help on.  She still loves me as a friend and still thinks I'm a great person, what, if anything can I do to rekindle a flame that was once there but is almost comepletely out?


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The less that you give you're a taker

Well, romanticism doesn't do any good without a receptive audience, so you won't succeed there on this one. Hard to take, but if you didn't see this coming, then she probably thinks you haven't been paying attention for quite awhile now. You keep saying "I want". What you both want now is different, given her attitude. Listen, if you've been together since your twenties that's pretty good but people tend to change over time, especially around 30 and you can't control that. Therefore, someone who was good for us in our twenties may not be in our thirties, and so forth, get it? Consider your relationships like a tree. You both start out on the same trunk, but as the tree grows you can end up on different branches, finally losing touch with each other. That's what they mean by "branching out", and it naturally happens all the time. Cut your losses and move on before your grief turns into self-loathing.    


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" I refuse to have a Battle of Wits with an unarmed person".

"Whomsoever Much is Given, of him Much More shall be Required”

You must move on. You cannot hold on to someone that doesn't want to be held onto. However, the trick is to be concerned about your own personal growth. It will help, if you are not expressing your desire to rekindle the relationship. Here are the rest of my tips:

  • Don't be friends. If you are always available then she gets some of the benefits to having you as a friend, without having to be in a commited relationship.
  • Focus on your personal Goals
  • Seek knowledge & education
  • Exercise & take care of your body & appearance.
  • Get a job and or have interesting & productive hobbies
  • Don't call her anymore. Let her call you. (As it should always be!)
  • If she does call? Limit you talk time to 3 minutes and return her call 1-2 days later.

I guarantee she will show a new found interest in your life and will be calling off the hook. Now the ball will be in your corner, but you might have found someone better along the journey.

 Hope that helps. Click here for the Signs of Infidelity http://www.Catching-Cheaters.com

Best regards,

Claude Ammons-The Investigator of Love


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i always try to help those who need good adviceSmile

from female advice she doesnt want a relationship with you  she seems to make that clear. its hard to love someone whom doesnt love you back move on. there is someone else out there who will love you back as much as you would them


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