Would you still get Married even if the Sex is Bad?

it depend's if u want to gothru it with bad sex it is very importent to hve a good sex life. i would say no run fast

That is a personal thing that only you can really decide. Does his other assets outweigh sex to you? Sex is a great part of marriage but not the necessary factor that should be considered.If he shows he loves you by sending little gifts, calls you when he just wants to tell you he loves you, loves to do the same things you do, and all the things women seem to look for, then sex may not mean as much.Try to get him to try other things than  he's not doing now, you take the lead sometimes. Buy him a sex manual and both of you read it together in bed.If it has pictures that's even better. If it doesn't improve,and sex is priority with you, then you may want to look for you another boyfriend insted of marrying one you might regret marrying. Life's too short, do what pleases you, because it is your life and you have to live with your decisions only. Good luck in deciding.

My advice is that if you are not satisfied with your partner, in any way, do not proceed into any type of permanent relationship. I don't know your age but the younger you are the more important it is to not be trapped in a marriage because you think this is the best you can do.

Having said that, Ms. A Brown has some excellent advice which I've reprinted below;

"Try to get him to try other things than  he's not doing now, you take the lead sometimes. Buy him a sex manual and both of you read it together in bed.If it has pictures that's even better."

If he is not satisfying you sexually you have every right to let him know but please, the male ego is fragile, so be careful how you do this. Especially if you've had a previous boyfriend who could compete on an olympic sex team and this is what you need to be satisfied. Like everything else, there are varying levels of ability so make sure you are realistic in what you expect from him as a sex partner.

I went thru this same issue not too long ago, and I thought that since I cared about him so much that the fact that he couldnt please me sexually wouldnt matter , but eventually it did!!! I couldnt get over it and look past it, we tried so many things, I didnt want to hurt him by telling him that he couldnt make me feel good at all, so I kept it to myself until the oppurtunity presented itself to tell and he was ok with it because I expressed this in a nice, non-ego bruising way and we went from there. In the end, we arent even talking and dont have any contact anymore and the sex never got better even after we had the talk. I dont think it was him not knowing how to do it or what to do I feel it was just that he personally couldnt get me off and make me feel good, no matter what we tried it was never good!!! I know I could get off because a past boyfriend made me feel great, but this man, no matter how much I cared for him and wanted the sex to be good it just wasnt cutting it!!!

Im not saying to dump him or that sex is the most important thing because it certainly is not, it is great and important in a relationship to have great sex with the person that you love and are commited to, but should not be put first!!! Relationships that are based on sex or sex being of high importance will eventually fail and get old/boring, because so many things have to come first in a relationship before sex can really be as wonderful as God intended it to be.

If you want things to work with this man, then you have to work at it TOGETHER!!! That is the key here, it has to be a concerted effort on both your parts. You have to speak up and let him know...when he gets to a spot that you are feeling it great moan loader or say something encouraging like" baby it feels so good right there" this way here you arent making him feel bad you are letting him know what he is doing right and good and making him feel good also so he will keep doing what he hears you say is good and makes you feel best!!! I hope this helps!!!

Best wishes with this all!!!!

I think you should stay with him, if he treats you good. Sex isn't everything in a relationship and besides there are other ways to make each other very happy. My sex life isn't that great with my husband, but I love him for him and not what's in his pants.

uni350,

You can love many people, but not "marry" any of them for various reasons.

Some people don't have sex with their partner until after marriage, so they might not be good in bed and you would not have any prior knowledge as to their performance.  To simply give up and not try to make things work is not fair to your partner or your marriage.

I would not enter into a marriage with someone unless I felt as though they were as committed to the relationship as myself.  There must be a mental, physical and spiritual connection in addition to having some similar interests and goals.  While I agree that sex is usually important to both people, I do not believe that it is the glue that cements or holds the marriage together.

Marriage is a lot of hard work and is not something that a person should rush into or take lightly.  Be kind to others and treat them as you wish they would treat you.  Do not get married, if you are too lazy to be committed to your partner and your family.  Be willing to give 100% each and every day.  If you are unable to do this, stay single.

Blessings,

~ nmpb ~ 

That is a good question do you love this person even as you call bad sex has a great bearing on this matter.Do you care for this person enough to try a marrage with no sex in it i would consult a Counceler and talk with them then work on your relationship as it may be the best thing you ever did. As it takes time to make or break up a relationship as i have had this my self as due to abuse by an ex husband but we are working to overcome this problim as we have been married for over 23 years now and it can be overcome in time but TRUST is the most important thing in a relationship as for my self i love all the women and am a big flirt but i know where HOME IS AT NIGHT.