I love my girlfriend but she wont give me oral.

Hi,

Sometimes before a female really figures out her style of fellatio,head can be uncomfortable due to the gag reflex.This guy may have pushed her head down or done something else that made her uncomfortable and she's carrying that with her.Whether it's a comfort issue or something else,don't push her.I agree with you,her reasoning doesn't really make sense,but if you are understanding and sensitive she'll come around and grow comfortable with you.

I think you should give her some time, if you really love her and she responds in kind. You should be patient and not force her. Not every woman enjoys giving oral sex and for some it does take time. Try to remember that when she did it for her previous boyfriend it was probably her first time.

Dear One:

The real question I suggest you consider is: Whose crap is this ?

Your girlfriend has the courage to admit that is her issue and from what I read from your account, she is not avoiding your question.

What she is really telling you is that she loves you.
And that she feels shame to have performed oral sex with another man. 

Can you hear this ? 

So, do not make it your issue.
Let her work it out.

Finally, if, as you say you do, you do love your girlfriend,
then love her where she is.
Power has no place in a loving relationships.

You cannot make her give you oral sex, neither can she force you to do whatever. This is not an even transaction, it is not a powerplay, it is simple human pleasure.

Personally, I find great pleasure in giving pleasure to someone I love.

No compensation, no return of the favor, no conditions, no nothing needed in exchange of the pleasure.

Love is a gift you give.

She's getting away with murder here folks can't you see! This man is willingly going down on her and she has no objection but when it comes to him getting service she backs out?! Give a man a break here your saying he has no room for complaint? Man I would press her like the Detroit Pistons on this one.

maybe your hygiene is in need of some fine tuning.If thats not the case maybe shes not that attracted to you.

maybe your hygiene is in need of some fine tuning.If thats not the case maybe shes not that attracted to you.

Ok..This isn't Gonna be a Simple One Answer Entry..There Are MANY Issues Here.

1) Your Girlfriend is relating an Act to a Prior Experience Having Nothing to Do with You that is Painful To HER **Although it gets on Your Nerves Clearly and Understandably** So Don't Take it Personally,I KNOW that seems like Alot to Ask.

2) This Former Guy was a JERK Obviously,and she May Not have REally WANTED to Give him Oral, but Gave In,and Feels Ashamed for Having Done so,and Doesn't Want That Experience To Creep into her Loving RElationship with YOU Whilst You're Having SEX... **Hence Resenting You By Association***

3) Bitching and Nagging Her To Give You HEad Isn't Gonna Help Your Case,Even if she Did give in and give you what you want she'd REsent You Pushing Her and You'd feel Bad About her giving  you what you Said you wanted in the First Place **You'd be like the guy who gave her the bad memory to Begin with**

4) You're gonna have to Discuss your TRust Issues.

Reassure Her that Oral Sex is Not "Dirty" in your mind and that You aren't gonna see her as "Whoreish" for doing so..That you see the act as "Beautiful" and let her know you will Not look Down on her IF and WHEN SHE DEcides SHE is Comfortable doing it. THEN DROP IT

5) Stop Bringing It UP. **Her Past is HER Business..You Should Feel Privilaged SHe even TOLD You.. Stop Throwing it up in Her Face**

6) REassure Her You Love,Honor and Respect Her,  and Her Boundaries ..and SHOW HER. **That Her Happiness is More Important Than Your BlowJob**

And An Amasing Thing Might Just Happen..When You STop Concentrating on The BlowJob You're Not GEtting, After She Feels SAfe,Loved and REspected, You Might Just Get What You WAnt..Without EVER ASking Her.

And When She Does..Praise Her For IT... *In a REspectful Way... Don't Say Something Stupid Like " I Love The Way You BLOW Me Baby"

And Remember, It's Not WHAT You ASK..it's Often The WAY you ASk for things, that either gets you what you want without the other person feeling negative about the situation,or Doesn't Get you What you want At All, or is BEgrudging Given to You and Later REsented **REmember Her EX**

Good Luck.

Last Question you REally Need To Ask Yourself..What's More Important..Her Or a BlowJob??

If It's The BlowJob, You Both Need To Be With OTHER People.