I love my best friend.

I am in love with my best friend of five years. We are both 19 and he is dating a 16 year old. He says he loves her and doesn't know I love him. Do I not say anything or somehow tell him? What do I do?


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
You raised 2 different points.  He has a girlfriend and he loves her.  Better don't do to her what you wouldn't like that someone will do to you.....  Wait until they separate.   I believe that when one wants to get something one has to be proactive and "help" it happen.... Nothing to be ashamed with love and no reason to hide it......  tell him you love him and hope that he'll react in the way you wish (but take into account that he might dissapoint you....).  
Best regards,


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"A Happy Home is but an Earlier Heaven"

~John Bowring

I can tell you, from experience, that best friends make the best life partners too! I think it's because the qualities you desire in each are the same. Best friends are trustworthy, dependable, considerate, compassionate, supportive, respectful, and most of all, they love one another unconditionally.

Now, your real issue is that he already has a girlfriend that he claims to love. Another possible problem for you is that if you decide to tell him your true feelings for him now and those feelings are not reciprocated then you are risking losing a great friendship (especially if the girlfriend finds out and starts to view you as a threat). Truth is, even if he were single and wanted to take his friendship with you to another level ~ you two would be putting that friendship on the line because there are no gaurentees that it will work out or that it won't end badly which would damage your already exsisting friendship. Just know that this is one possible outcome but true love is about going out on that limb knowing that it's worth the fruit you're reaching for.

I was willing to take that chance with my now hubby and it has paid off tremendously! We have been together happily & faithfully for 19 years and are celebrating our ten year wedding anniversary later this month = )

My advice is... continue to be his best friend which means being considerate of his feelings and respectful of his relationship. Continue to support him by being there for him especially if he is falling for this girl because he may fall too hard too fast and if he has a rough landing then you will be the first person that he'll depend on to pick him up and dust him off. Personally, I think the girlfriend is too young for any serious commitment and the chances of their relationship lasting are probably slim to none. Timing is EVERYTHING! When the time is right, you can share those intimate feelings with him and hope that he was waiting for you to profess your love!

 

GOOD LUCK =)


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   " I have my Freedom , but I don't have much time " Wild Horses . The Stones                                                  Protect The Mustang .

                                       

                                                  

                                                              



 
                                                                                                             

He's got a girlfriend that he's told you he loves , that should answer your question .  If you choose to tell him you love him , which I would not do , be prepared you might not get the answer you are looking for .  Also be prepared to  lose him as a good  friend , it would be very awkard from him to remain close friends  with you knowing that you love him and he does not feel the same about you .   I would sit back and see what happens between him and his GF  .  Do not do anything to come between him and his GF you would not like it if someone did it to you , what goes around comes around .


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Live simply, love generously and  care deeply.

 

He loves the other girl, so I think you should just leave him alone.  When they are no longer together, then you can tell him the way you feel towards him.


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live it try 2 love it and u will be ok

lsn if u are sure that u really love him u have 2 tell him at least like that u wont wonder later wat would happen if i told him,and u know every thn is allowed in luv&war,so bring it on and tell him that u luv him and u know like that the ball will be in his play ground and u wont feel guelty caz u didnt tell him,so be brave and do it my frnd............gd luck


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