Hi Yedda, My name is Tanya. Me and my fiance have ...

Hi Tanya,
You are not going to like my answer: A year passed and as you see your relations didn't develope in the right way and to the right level.   I have the feeling your fiance is not matured enough (or, you are much more matured than he is).  He might anjoy being with you but not much more.  He doesn't intend to raise your relations to a higher levels.  I don't know if he is cheating or not but it is sure a possibility.  Sorry to hurt you but you'll have to start realizing that this man is not for you..... The best advise I can give you is: Give him a chance in a remote hope that he'll get matured but if it doesn't happen (say within 3 months) better move on.   Sorry Tanya (I only want to help you !).
Best regards,

Great answer, OronD. Thumb up!

Tanya, your fiance does not hear what you have to say because he does not care to listen.

He is your fiance in name only; nothing more. His actions do not back it up, nor do his words.

In fact, after seeing what you wrote about his behavior I have to ask: Whose idea was it to become engaged, yours or his?

I am not trying to be mean, but it sounds to me as though he may have agreed to an engagement just as a means to silence your talk about marriage. And if so, then it is no wonder he does not behave in the manner of an engaged man - because he never wanted to be one, so he doesn't think of himself in that way.

Think about it. Could that be it?

Tanya, please do not stick with your fiance because you think you can "change" him.

That is a sure recipe for divorce court.

You have been given very good - and truthful - answers. In your original question, you state that you and your boyfriend have been together for nearly a year. The fact that you now insist that he just needs some time because he had not been in a relationship for quite some time (before he met you) speaks volumes.

It says to me that my guess was absolutely dead on.

Your profile shows that you are 28 years of age. I am presuming this means your boyfriend is about that same age, or perhaps a smidge older. He hadn't dated anyone for five years before he began his relationship with you, he is "all about having fun," you haven't been physically intimate for three months and you've been together not even one full year; is that not correct?

And you believe he seriously asked you to marry him?

Please, honey. Wake up and face reality.

Your boyfriend may love you. Indeed, he may ONE DAY decide he wants to get married. He may even decide he wants to marry you. He's just not ready now!

You pushed him into it, sweetie. That's why he acts the way he does.

I'm sorry, but it's the truth.

I think his question is valid. Why are you with him if all you do is find fault. His inability to open up is a very common character of men. His ED could be the result of many different things both physical and emotional. The fact that you immediately think that he may be cheating on you is clear indication of trust issues.

I think that before you look at him for an answer then look at yourself. Love is definitely a necessary ingredient for a stable relationship, but trust, admiration and compatibility are equally as important. Do you have all of this?

If, after inner reflection, you truly want to be with this man. Then I suggest that you stop attacking and start loving and caring. To get a man to open up is difficult, but it is also risky. You may find that your man is not as strong as you thought, not as manly as you want and not as bold as you need, and that may affect your admiration and admiration is the fuel for sexual desire.

So be give some serious thought if you want your man to open up to you or to deal with the problem in his own way, but stop pushing, because there is a big chance that you will push him into the doing something else.

Follow your heart, but let your mind read the signs