You can love him all you want, Bee; but he is more committed to his addiction, than to you. I lived through many years of my own addiction; and the issues I created. Until I was ready to quit; it didn't matter what you said. I was in it for me. Even after I quit drugs, alcohol; and other women, it took me years of work on myself to get to the point where I felt like I was a worthwhile human being; and many more years before I felt I was able to have an intimate relationship with someone; without bringing my past into it. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing you can do for him, other then to say your peace; explain that you love him, but you need to love yourself first. If you don't, you are going to continue to be used by others, and you will resent them for doing it; and resent yourself more, for letting them. Losing your virginity to someone does create a bond, that is hard to break; but how do you really know that is what love is; without having experienced more of life? be good to yourself; and, be good to him. The most loving thing you can do is to allow him to experience the consequences of his actions. I swear this to be true, hon.

Doug