My wife is talking about leaving me and she wants ...

Hi,

I also want to say that I'm sorry.  This is a really hard situation that you're in and I'm hoping that it will work out for you.  I agree with Oron that if you are strong and you tell your wife that you are ready to put the effort into salvaging the relationship, then you are willing.  A counselor is a great idea, and I think that maybe by doing this, you two could find a balance between your wife's urge to go out with friends and to spend time with you.  On the other hand though, if your wife is at the point where she is acting like she just doesn't care about being with you anymore, then maybe you should start thinking about the more painful options... breaking this off.  In the end, you deserve better.  That's the plain truth.  No one, married or just in a relationship deserves to feel like they are second best, like they aren't good enough, etc.  You need to find out if there's something that you can do better in the relationship, if there are things that can change to fix this, or if you need to look towards moving on.  Good luck man.  Stay strong. 

I am not sure that there is very much that you can do except to have a third part speak honestly  with her. Your wife is living in a dreamworld and is acting as such. She is also acting  extremely immaturely.  She has someone providing her with all the material things she needs at home while outside she is having the time of her life. Someone will have to break the bubble and make her see things more realistically. She thinks that if she forces you to give her a divorce those  male friends will still be around to give her a great time and one might even  marry her. But that is just a delusion. Most women find that life after a divorce is lonely and difficult. With that said I urge you to speak honestly with her and tell her you still love her but that your love cannot continue if she continues acting as she is. If that does not help then you should  get someone  whom she respects to speak with her.  If that does not help then there is very little you can do except divorce her with all the pain involved and find someone else who is more appreciative of your love.  You are obviously someone who can give his love.

maybe she just wants your attention,maybe she wants you to go out with her, or maybe she is curious if there is someone else out there better for her.thats not to say she'll go out and realize she has more fun without you,thats just a natural question of human nature.Idont know how long you have been with her and if she married you the she at least at one time loved you so there is still a chance for talking to her ask her if she minds you going out with her and her friends? dont push the issue though if she sayes no i dont want you too just politly tell heryou really dont want her to go out without you but if she feals she must then go. remember dont push no matter howhard it is to refrain, if you do that just might be the ammo she's looking for if there are no kids involved then maybe you could go to another club with some of your friends. without more info this is the best i can do for you. just trust your love and your lover if she leaves you though, dont get dumb for any amount of time she may realize you are the best one for her and want to come home then the rebuild starts and good luck with that one pal that takes dedication devotion and a whole lot of forgiveness just remember you cannot forget whats been done move towards the future. you two will deside if you can do this when the time comes, best of luck 2 u 2.

hmmm,first,ask yourself,why is she looking for amusement elsewhere?have you been neglecting her?meaning,maybe you weren't taking her out to have fun and you just wanted to stay home all day!you know that after a hard week's work,it is good to get out and have fun and maybe this is what your wife wants and you are not giving it to her!next time she wants to go out with her guy friends,why don't you go along?and have fun!!pretend that you like the company of the other guys,too!maybe,she is doing this to get you to start paying attention to her!but then again,she is talking about leaving,but she hasn't yet,so this is the chance to show her how much you love her,by paying more attention to her needs!buy her flowers,a gift,take her to a nice restaurant,she wants romance,babe!!now,start giving it to her!