To me if someone I truely love asks the question of will you marry me. I would personally already know if he or she is the right one for me. Look further to realistically look as relationships as a team work effort. How has it been with both of you now and will you both still tolerate each other no matter what problems come ahead? Marriage is no game, nor is it a Honey Moon thrill that will last forever. It's what you both make out of it together. A woman of 48 in her mid level prime years, remaining single with children is needed to gain a companion but many times for women they depend on life security expecting to be served hand and foot. Life today is no longer that way. A two way exchange needs attention, but all situations are different from others. Traditional marriaage I am learning seems to be the thing of the past. Although for certain religions it's a must. It all depends on you and what you really believe is best for both you and your spouse. Years and planning has it's ups and downs, after all that how do you both still feel? Remember it's a team effort and not what he or she wants it's what you both want to have and when you do, make that final.