I lost my love 20 days back....and i cant live without her

How do you plan to control someone when you cannot control yourself? You appear to have problems with impulse control and you need to get a handle on it. You state that you broke up because of your control issues and inability to allow her some freedom and yet knowing that, you cannot back off now to give her some breathing room. I am not necessarily going to recommend counseling but you at least need to go to the bookstore and get some self-help books. It sounds to me like you have more than one issue going on here from lack of self-esteem/trust, lack of boundaries, and impulse control issues. You need to learn these things for yourself and then try to have a relationship. It sounds like you pushed her away and by continuing this type of controlling behavior, you are still pushing her, and by all means, you have to stop!

You have definitely overstepped your boundaries as far as trying to get in touch with your ex. If you want to have any possiblity of getting her back, you really need to take a step back right now and give her space. You need to redeem yourself in her eyes, and the only way that you can do that is to do the opposite of everything that you have done so far. When I say time, I don't mean a few days, or a week. You need to give her at least a few weeks. Then you can try contacting her to see how she is doing. If she doesn't want to talk to you when you do, don't persist. Give her some more time. She may open herself up to you again, or she may not. Whatever happens, you need to accept it. If you really do care about her so much, you should do whatever she wants in the end, even if that means moving on.

does she not listen to you?...if she doesnt...then tell her that u will die without her...(not in real) i know how it feels...if you truly love her...then you will get her back...if she truly loves you then she wont leave you...maybe she is just trying to wind you up...try to make some time for you two alone...some where quiet and romantic...and tell her how you feel...stop nagging her...jst be romantic...you can...

If she truly loves you, she will return to you. Give her the time she needs to reconsider this break up. She accuses you of being controlling.. prove to her you're not.Show her you have changed. As hard as it might be, stop calling her. If you continue to bother her, you will never get her back. Give her time to miss you and wonder what you're doing, where you're at, etc. If you can do that, she'll probably end up calling you.

What you should do is leave her alone. Obviously she's not interested.. You're kind of stalker-ish.

okay bitch ahead ^

um i think your really sweet, but she probably just wants to have some fun right now and you giving her a lack of freedom is not abilling her to do so. i say, wright her a long note. dont be needy in it. just tell her exactly how you feel and how you fealt and how your ready to change for her( with the freedom stuff ). at the end of it tell her this is your last time you will contact her and when she wants to talk to you, you'll be there.

after that, do not call, text, email, write NOTHING. have fun, go out with friends, be single. its okay to be upset, ive been thru tough breakups myself but when i act needy they never want me back but when i go off and act like i can live without them they take me back. girls like a guy with independence. and if she loves you and misses you she'll come to you. let her come to you. and if she doesnt, its okay its just not meant to be. if your meant for each other it will all work out in the end. but you have to respect her decision, by you keep contacting her its just pissing her off more. so say your final goodbye and maybe she'll come back for a new hello.

Yeah, you're getting really stalkerish and there is no question: SHE NEVER WANTS ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU EVER AGAIN!!! Sorry to be so straight- forward but you are a creep. I mean really. Pssh no wonder ya can't get a girl

Don't pursue her.  The smart move is to let them come to you.