How do I let this go?

Maggie-

The cows have left the building and the water has gone under the bridge. The things of the past are unalterable. There are many things that none of us can control. Just look at all the lunatics on the road.

You may have not handled things perfectly. Well, welcome to the club. There are many things that I look back on and say, "Damn! I should have done this or that or the other." Yes, I should have, but I didn't. So do I beat myself up about it? At times. And then I try to get a firm grip on reality. I can't change it. I must embrace it and learn from it. Forgive yourself first.

So, how is the best way to discharge the emotions tied into these events. You need to find a counselor or a small group. I am tempted to say a trusted friend, altho I feel that I may be bordering on the oxymoronic. If you have someone you can confide in and know what you say will go no further, count  yourself as blessed. By talking about this- meaning how hurt and angry you are, how sad  you are,  what ever you are feeling- not a recitation of the incident itself, it will cease to have such a strong hold on you.

You say that you love your new job. Maybe GOD allowed this to happen to put you in a better place than you were.

JayR 

Revenge is a dish best served cold. The best revenge is a great life.  The longer you allow her to victimize you, the longer you will hold toxic resentment.  Shine in your new job, the hag from your previous job will eventually realize she let go of a gem.  Act as if you are happy and thriving and you will be happy and you will thrive.  Act as if you are successful and act as if she never got to you and she will no longer bother you.  Act as if she is not worth the stress and your mind will follow! 

Dear Maggie

letting things go takes time and that time period is as long as you as a person needs there are no rules Everyone who has experienced life will be in these situations and counselors talk about an acronym called SARAH

S = SHOCK

A= ANGER

R= REJECTION

A= ACCEPTANCE

H= HEAL

You will shuttle between all of these emotions until you get to the end and then you will forget all the emotion behind it. It is very very difficult to do and once you are in it you think you will be stuck there forever but you will progress but as long as you remain conscious of going through the process there will be no scars

good luck the fact that you are conscious of it means you should be fine

take care