chaz
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Will i ever let go of this pain?

iv been with my partner for about 10 years and i fount out in jan 2007 that he had been sleeping with another girl for about 6 months prior to that. i was so hurt and angry a few months later i had a 1 night stand hoping it would help me get over what he did, but it didnt. he know's about this and its hurt him.

i only fount out because the girl he was seeing told me and he later admitted to it after many attemps to lie about it. where still together and both trying to get over the hurt we have caused each other. i cant let go of what he's done and struggle to move past it all. i just wish i could erase that part of my life and just get on with our relationship but its so hard. my question is, will i ever get over this hurt and should i forgive?

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dogbreeder
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Live simply, love generously, care deeply,

speak kindly, leave the rest to God.

Chaz,

    That is your personal choice and decision to forgive and forget.  If you cannot do this, relieve yourself from this relationship and move on.  It will hurt for awhile but any wound has the ability to heal by itself.  Don't torture yourself.  You deserve an honest person.
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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
My friend, Dogbreeder, gave you, as she always does, an excellent answer (smart and sensetive) [gave her 2 thumbs up]. If you decided to forgive you MUST also forget.... you can't forgive and not forget..... If you can't forgive and 100% forget it than move on.... staying with him will "kill" you and make you miserable.... Revange is no good... it's a negative destroying force that brings only troubles. Sit with yourself and think it seriousely over: Can you forgive and forget at the same time ? if the answer is a clear "yes" stay.... else..... hit the road and find someone that deserves you.
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holdsworth
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He cheated on you and then lied about it. Move on.

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angeleyes
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i always try to help those who need good adviceSmile

you can forget but you will never forgiveor vice versa its really hard to trust anyone after they have lied to you
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cutiepie
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Always be honest with yourself and others

HELLO DOGBREEDER

 Keep up the good advice. take care
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dogbreeder
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Thank you cutiepie,  I'll try.
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