What's wrong with me? I don't like to kiss. It's always awkward and I think the taste of someone else's tongue is disgusting. I get very envious when I see couples participating in passionate kissing because I wish I could do the same. I was also told that kissing is one the most important parts in love-making (which I don't seem to enjoy very much either). Why don't I enjoy something so pleasurable and meaningful? How do I change this? Because I would like to share this intimacy with someone one day and fear he may refuse to be with me because I dislike kissing.
I don't know your background, and frankly, I don't have proper training to make assumptions but it seems to me that you have had bad experiences that tainted your view of kissing.
It may be a good idea to go to a professional counselor and try to overcome this issue because kissing is the foremost expression of intimacy. Without kissing, meaningful relationships are much harder to fully experience.
Life is lessons in love. No regrets.
It sounds like you've had some bad/uncomfortable/unenjoyable experiences that have made their mark on you. Kissing can be a very passionate part of love-making, but it is not everything. Relationships are about making emotional as well as physical connections with another person. In dating, we have the opportunity to "practice" the art of kissing and love-making. The more you care for a person, the more passionate the kissing and love-making. In the beginning, when you first start dating a person, the excitement of not knowing a person well can be very stimulating and arousing, thus making kissing a way of "getting to know" him/her. For some people, however, it is very hard to feel comfortable with someone who you've just met. This makes kissing extremely awkward. It's possible that although you may not enjoy it now, you will find someone who will excite you and you will enjoy kissing. Whether it be their technique or some other aspect, you will enjoy their company. However, it's also possible that you will meet someone who, just like you, does not like kissing. And then you two will be a match made in heaven!
If you haven't had bad past experiences and simply don't enjoy kissing or sex, it is possible that you are aesexual. Asexual people find sexual acts unappealing but can still feel deep romantic love. For more information see www.asexuality.org
Most of all, don't listen to the claims that kissing is the most important part of expressing love, or the most important part of lovemaking, or the most important part of life, or whatever other silly thing they might throw at you. Love can be expressed in many ways and love can be made in many ways and every relationship will have its preference for which is best. Kissing may be a popular way but it isn't The Way. So stay calm and happy and do your research to see whether there is an experience in your past which might have put you off kissing, or if you might be asexual, or if there is some other explanation. Good luck and don't worry!
Its possible you could just be asexual....(look it up)
I'm the same way...I will kiss my boyfriend only when he kisses me and usually try to keep it to a peck. Once in a while when he tries to be more passionate, I will participate but I honestly get no enjoyment out of it whatsoever....its only to make him happy.
Call me a hopeless romantic, but i like to believe that if the right guy came along he'd love you whether you enjoy saliva swapping or not!! Fairplay, kissing is important for a lot of people, but it's not the be all and end all of a relationship!!! There is soooo much more to intimacy than playing a little tongue hockey!! Have you not noticed that those couples who have been together for a long time rarely share a dribbly, passionate kiss because their connection is just so strong that they don't feel the need to?
And no, nothing is wrong with you!! Some people jus don't enjoy it. Other people do. We're not all the same, it's just part of being human. Maybe a bad experience happened to you in the past, maybe you haven't met the right guy, maybe you jus don't enjoy it and never will... Out of interest, have you tried non-French kissing. It's not so uncomfortable or gross, and it doesn't have to last very long, but it still tells your partner that you really like/love them. Actually I personally prefer those kinds of kisses. They're sweet and sensual and I don't have to wipe my face down afterwards!!!
Just don't worry about it. Go with the flow with whoever you're with. Cross that bridge when you get there - if you get there!! You might find someone who doesn't really like kissing either, because you're not alone with the way that you feel!!!
Oh, and good luck!
Don.
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