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He wants kids but I don't!

I have never looked for love or dating or anything like that but find myself with the most perfect man. I have never felt this way about anyone or anything. We are a perfect match on all things except for one - he wants kids and I don't. Now what?

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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
No offence please, but you can't avoid him having kids.  That will be too egoistic (not to write cruel).  I don't think you have too many options.  Either you split (and lose this perfect man) or have a baby (still with a perfect man !)..... The bottom line is: You can't deny him from being a father just because you don't want a baby....  {or let him find someone that will love to have a baby with him}. 
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thanks for the honesty!  I am going to try to find a nice way to break up with him as we clearly want two different things. Sad, but better do it now I guess!

 

Thanks again. I kind of knew this is what would happen. Oh well. More fish in the sea??  
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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

I wish you the best of luck.  I can sense some relief in your answer.... isn't it ?

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I hope there is still time and you haven't as yet broken up because I think you are making a terrible mistake that you sooner or later will regret. Children are your future and will always be there for you besides having such a wonderful partner as their father. Your biological clock is ticking and can not be reversed. Think about it, please. Don't give up the perfect man for you as well as the potential for having children that add meaning to your life.
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I have ever wanted kids nor do I ever want kids, and as I now close to 40 I don't think I will change my mind. :) I also forgot to mention that my guy is considerably younger than me, so that might have something to do with it too. I dunno - I think I am going to tell him the truth, lay it put, see what happens then look into some options. He is also not working right now so even if I wnted kids, I don't think I would want them until he was in a more stable situation. But again, I am so thankful for everyone point of view and honesty!
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OronD wrote " you can't avoid him having kids.  That will be too egoistic"

I dont agree with it!

It is YOUR life, you decide what YOU want. 

If you do not want kids (which I totally understand) especially if someone is younger and jobless, you need to move on. Find someone who already have kids:) 
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