Should I kick my husband out and get a divorce?
I'm bi-polar, and when I'm manic I make some irrational choices. Last year, I met a guy in Las Vegas whilst on a vacation and married him after knowing him for 5 days. I'm an American and he's British. Well, that was in May of 08 and on New Year's Eve (12-31-08) I found out that he had been writing an ex girlfriend. Not really an ex, but this lady he met while traveling in South Africa. Back story on that is, he was at a gym in SA in 99 and met this lady almost 10 years his senior. She invited him to live with her and have sex for three weeks. He did. I found out that he was writing her emails while I was in bed sleeping (3am 4am). He was sneaking around. We had a huge fight about it, but we reconciled and he promised that it meant nothing and she was in SA so he would never see her anyways. He also promised to never contact her again.
However, I was checking his e-mail for responses on an advert we put online to rent a room and saw another email from her. She's going to be visiting the state where we live. She requested that he drive 3 hours each way for a "cup of coffee". I told him "no way". I think it's totally inappropriate. He started calling me a ball and chain, his jailer, and saying things like he wish he never got married because I won't let him drive my car and spend gas money we don't have to see this lady. Another huge argument has broken out.
Like I said, I'm bipolar, and my reaction to this is to kick him out and get a divorce. Am I going over the top with this?
Also, he got his green card a few days ago.
