I wouldnt go after him I know it hurts but then he might see that youare hurting all the time pay him no mind, he knows that he can have you back at the drop of a dime girl get in that shower shave them legs get your hair cut put on the makeup even if your no going out make him think you are if you have kids together pretend your going on a date thats great, and makes you smile and laugh, youll see he wont want someone else touching you after 34 years but he will think its ok for him to do youll see keep me posted GOOD LUCK