I know exactly how you feel.  I just found out my husband has a secret account as well.. and i feel really stupid because i'm very honest with what little i have.. i'm currently not working, however in reciept of unemployment...everything i get i spend within the home and on the kids.. so i feel very cheated,, i mean if he's has an account secret he may have even bigger secrets... i don't feel like i can trust him.. I feel like this is the begining of the end.