Well, Monica, it does sound as if he is either cheating, or at the least, no longer interested. You could confront him, but he will deny it. I would still tell him that you suspect he is seeing someone else, and If you must, that you will hire a private investigator. Tell him, you want to go to counseling, NOW. Do it and confront him there. At the least you may be able to get at the reason for the changes. Best wishes, I sure hope your suspicions are wrong!

Dan

I don't think he's cheating. I think he is dissatified with his life and he is taking it out on you.  We all wake up someday and say "man I could have been this or I could have been that." Not much different from mid life crisis and who do we hurt? The one's we love.  In his case you. He isn't having an affair he is just very unhappy with where he is right now in his life and he lashes out at you.  Could his unhappiness lead to an affair.  Maybe but I doult it. I really feel it's not that he is unhappy with you but himself.  Will he find peace? I don't know. He has to learn to like himself first.  But I still feel in my heart he loves you, just very unhappy with himself.  Try to help him find himself again.  Get him and you invovled in things he used to like to do.  Take time out for each other and show him there is more to life than work.

It sounds to me like he met someone at work. Whenever a man starts accusing you of cheating out of the blue,without reason, it's usually because he is the one who is cheating. I think you should leave him. He is not trustworthy and you need trust in a realtionship. I honestly don't think having a talk with him would do much because most likely he will deny any wrong doing and turn everything back on you.

Honeslty i think your relationship has run its course. I have been in the same postion. And the more i tried to fix things, the worse it got till i found out he had a secret. He didn't cheat on me but his ex sent him some nasty pics. And the thing was is that he kept them. well i found them. Try his cell (if he has one) when he is around open it and press buttons...if he gets grabby somethings up. Try to figure it out and quick, my ex ended up kicking me out and breaking it off. But it was worth finding the truth and knowing i was going to be better off without the drama.