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I had to put my husband in jail.He is facing felony counts of domestic violence and 2 child endangering.He is bipolar and is not on meds.He just got real upset and i couldn't get him to calm down so i know i did the right thing by calling the police but all i do is cry and miss him.He did call his mother from jail to let her know what had happened and she said for the first time in his life he has taken responsibility for his actions I do want to get back together as long as he gets the help he needs but i don't know if he will want to get back together since i put him in jail.Why do I care if he is mad at me since he made the mistake?Why does it hurt so bad when i know I did the right thing? Will this hurting ever stop?


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well u shouldn't feel bad cause u did the rite thing first of all and by putting him in jail is going to make his future better cause he's going to get help and be a better person and if u want to go back to him i don't see why he wouldn't say yes. Cause think about it this way ur the gurl who saved his life


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Hi,

    I agree with Innocent.  You did the right thing.  You were just trying to protect yourself and the family form being harmed by him.  You should not feel guilty about what you did.  Being guilty means that you did something wrong to him.  You did not.  So look at this in a positive light.  When and after he got the treatment that he should get, and he feels better and the symptoms subside, then probably you and him can get back together.  The first priority though is the safety of everyone in the household.  It's understandable you miss him a lot.  Just hope that he will get the proper help and treatment that he needs.

God Bless.


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   " I have my Freedom , but I don't have much time " Wild Horses . The Stones                                                  Protect The Mustang .

                                       

                                                  

                                                              



 
                                                                                                             

Since he was charged with domestic violence I assume he was physical with you , hence the other charge of child endangering ?   You need to protect yourself and your children . What was the cause of him getting so upset ?  As he been to a DR and was told he is bipolar or is this just something you assume .  If you want to continue your relationship with your husband then you need to get him and yourself some help .  Even if you decide to end the marriage you have children to be concerned about during visitation with their Father , either way he needs help controlling his anger .   Sounds as if you have the support of his Mother , do you other family in the area that can support and help you .   Lay the law down to your husband , make it perfectly clear that you love him ,  but you are not going to put your children is danger or yourself . Seek help from law enforcement and other agencies for domestic violence .


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I just want to say ur answer brought me to tears and I hope you are right.I didn't do it to hurt him or be mean I know he stepped over his bounds and needs help.I want to stand beside him and help him and myself get the help that we both need to be able to raise our family SAFELY!Thx so much for ur insight!


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I am Praying for you and your family , be strong and seek help .


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