Any helpful suggestions???? Anyone?

Your fiance may be addicted to the computer and his online friends.

I am presuming things were not always like this, or else you wouldn't be his fiance. So what changed?

I suggest you tell him how much you miss the early days of your relationship. Reminisce about your time together, and the things you did. Let him know you'd like to relive some of those cherished moments - and then see if that sparks any interest on his part.

If it does, then grab the moment and go!

In the meantime, this problem is not going to go away. What you have is a communication issue - he is choosing to communicate with others, when he should be communicating with you.

If the two of you cannot discuss this problem and reach a mutually pleasing consensus, then I think couples counseling is in order - before you get married!

Good luck.

If you say "Hey, I don't really feel comfortable when you go online. And I'm your fiance, not them. I'm fine with you having other friends, it's just that I want you to remember that I'm your fiance." Or he may just love to be on the computer.

No, you are by no means crazy.

Listen to your inner voice and pay attention to what it is telling you. Again, barring any evidence to the contrary, I think this is just a relatively harmless addiction.

BUT, it has the potential to become a major issue between you.

I suggest it will take hard work and effort to get through this rough patch, but it is doable. At this point, you will just have to see if your fiance is willing to work through it with you - and if he's not, then you'll have to decide if you still want to be his fiance.

I'm sorry.

your fiance sounds very immature. How old is he? You should sit down with him one more time and have a serious conversation about this. If the behaviour continues, you may want to take a walk out of this relationship. Better it happened now than after marriage...

I'm so sorry that you are having troubles.  Unfortunately with time, life experience and gaining a more personal life with God, I have learned that your inner voice (which, if you are a Christian, is the Holy Spirit talking to you) is a hard thing to ignore.  Listen to it.  All the seemingly "trite" things you hear all your life end up nearly always being true.  ie:  "If in doubt, don't" - "You can't change another person" - etc.  As hard as it probably seems like it would be, move on.  You are worth much more than you are being given.  Love should feel good, not leave you wanting.  The right person is out there if we only wait for them.  Live your life and learn to be the best "you" that you can....the rest will follow.  Good luck!

I think you should add him in your online chatting list and chat with him 24x7. This way you can let him know how good you are and how much you love him. Later he would start taking interest in you and you can hang around in your way.

Just enter in his lifestyle the way he wants and later you can make him to fall for you.

I wrote a detailed response, but malfunctioned when tried to post it.

bottom line, you need to get counseling on this (a marriage or relationship counselor) to get to the bottom of you (and his) understanding of INTERNET ADDICTION and to determine the extent of his obsessive on-line social behavor with other women and what its all about and if he understands and cares about the effect it has on you .. and once he does grasp it all, how he feels and reacts to get this problem resolved and about YOUR feelings and needs in this regard.

His actions could be quite innocent (at least at this point) and just a habit that has become an obsession ... and it might not mean he does not love or appreciate you.  But, sounds like its an addiction for him and he has to come to grips with the reality of that and the reality of the IMPACT it has on you and why he needs to break that addiction.  

Perhaps he would let you sit and watch his chats?  Some couples do that and both laugh or enjoy it, even if they don't know you are watching too.  Maybe he will feel that you are overstepping by even suggesting that; if so he is looking at it all from a very self centered point of view and is pretty foolish (or indifferent) not to see how it affects you.

Best wishes getting his internet compulsion under control, it can be a real challenge for some who are really addicted .. and he was doing it BEFORE you moved in and could be very addicted to this social behavior on line.

Rob