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Please, please help?? My fiance is having these intense dreams, and...?!?

Ok, my fiance, Byron, is 26, and and I'm really worried about him... He's been having these intense nightmares, where he wakes up sweating, and I have to talk him down, and rub his back, or run my fingers through his hair, etc. to get him to fall back asleep. Usually, I'll wake up when he does, since I'm a light sleeper, but when I don't, he'll get up and go sit in the kitchen and read or he'll go watch TV for a while. When I wake up and he's not there, I'll usually get up with him. I've tried to talk to him about what's going on... if anything is causing these nightmares, but he's so sweet, and he just says, "No, honey, It's fine. Don't worry about me, I'm fine," and he'll kiss me, and that's it. But I know there's obviously something causing his nightmares... they're so intense. When he wakes up, he's sweating, and out of breath, and wrapped up in the sheets. I just don't know what to do for him! I'm worried about him! What do I do? The only thing I can think of that would be stressing him out is that we just found out I'm pregnant, and it was completely unexpected... I don't think Byron was expecting to hear that we were having a baby this soon... But I don't know how this would cause these intense, frightening nightmares for him... Help, please?! What do I do??


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Good men take responsibility seriously.  Knowing you are going to have his baby, he is probably scared to death of being able to support you and the baby and ensure that you all stay happy and healthy.  He may be very insecure about his abilities in this.  He might also be simply fearful of being a father.  Being sweet is such a wonderful attribute, but if you can't sit him down and get a straight answer out of him, you have serious problems ahead in your relationship.  It sounds like he is trying to protect you from his fears.  You need to assure him that you are a strong woman and that the two of you will be working together to support the family ~ that it isn't only his responsibility but yours (the two of you togehter).  Also, he moy not be aware of what is causing him these dreams.  Whatever the case, you need to push him a bit to open up to you ~ to share hirsthoughts and worries with you.  He may not want the baby.  That may be the issue as well.  You need to be prepared to hear the truth if you ask for the truth.

Posted 2009-10-31T14:33:57Z

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