My husband and I have been separated for 14 yrs ...

Hi,
No offence, please, but any normal guy would hesitate to return to someone who left him 3 times..... I would hesitate too..... so please don't blame him and better concentrate on yourself.... the ball is in your court...  Ask yourself: "what can I do to make his decision easier ?".... or: "How can I make him feel more secure that he takes the right decision ?".
Best regards,

I totally agree with my friend OronD, I gave him 2 thumbs up.  I would like to add to his comment.  Do you still want to get married to him?  I don't blame him for being hesitant.  Why don't you just enjoy each other when you see him.  Just take it easy , don't appear to be eager to marry again.  Let him come up with the idea of marriage.  If he did propose, that means he forgave you for leaving him 3 times.  Oh, what a saint or what a ....?

It seems to me that when you have him, you decide that you don't want him for some reason that we are not made aware of.  I am not trying to sound mean, but I think that it is probably time for both of you look for another mate.  It doesn't sound like the relationship will ever develop so it is time to move on.  You both deserve more.