My husband and I have been separated for 14 yrs ...

Hi,
No offence, please, but any normal guy would hesitate to return to someone who left him 3 times..... I would hesitate too..... so please don't blame him and better concentrate on yourself.... the ball is in your court...  Ask yourself: "what can I do to make his decision easier ?".... or: "How can I make him feel more secure that he takes the right decision ?".
Best regards,

I totally agree with my friend OronD, I gave him 2 thumbs up.  I would like to add to his comment.  Do you still want to get married to him?  I don't blame him for being hesitant.  Why don't you just enjoy each other when you see him.  Just take it easy , don't appear to be eager to marry again.  Let him come up with the idea of marriage.  If he did propose, that means he forgave you for leaving him 3 times.  Oh, what a saint or what a ....?