Blurting things out all at once is certainly one way of getting out the fact that you're positive. But healthy disclosure is a process that may require many discussions and contemplations.

Think of disclosing your HIV as the beginning of a new dialogue with the ones you most love and trust. Not only will they learn about you through this process, but you'll learn a lot about yourself as well. The starting point may be your saying "I have something to tell you -- I have HIV." But chances are, that isn't going to be the final word.

Setting the stage for disclosure can make a big difference. Think about where you want to tell -- a place where you feel comfortable and safe. If possible, line up some place safe for you to go after the initial disclosure, like a friend's house or a support group.

Consider bringing a few pamphlets about HIV or an HIV hotline card for the person you're telling. Not only might they use these resources later but having them helps that person know you're not alone, that there's support for you -- and for them. Consider bringing someone who already knows you're living with HIV.

Remember that their first reaction is not going to be their last. Like you, those who you love need time to adjust to this new information. Finally, be brave and proud of the decision you've made!

If your family already knows that you are being tested, then use some of the same techniques above to tell them about your result, if positive.

If the result is not positive and they do not even know that you have been tested, then my advice is to just keep it to yourself. There is no need to shock them with the information. However if they know that you were tested, just simply sit them down and tell them that it was negative. They don't want to hear details. All they need is that word.

Good luck to whoever this information is for. Whether it be you or someone else. Wishing all the best.