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Take someone of my head - How?

There's a girl in my faculty I really want to be in touch with. She doesn't know who I am, and frankly, I don't know her too, but the love the way she looks. Now, I've sought for some information and figured out she is a very nice girl but, unfortunately has a boyfriend. How can I take her out of my head?


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I think that before you do, take a moment and think about this - what is it that you like about her, why in this time in your life you decided to have a crash on someone you don't even know and who is in a relationship. I think that a lot of time, our emotions are giving us a lot of information about ourselves that we just choose to ignore because it seen unreasonable or unimportant.

I know that for a while I kept having crashes or falling in love with people that were either living in far away places or was unavaliable emotionally or were in other relationships. The reason, as it turned out was not that I had the amazing bad luck of finding lovely people who were difficult to get, but that I was very much in need of being in love but also very much not ready to make a commitment or be in a relationship.

I think that trying to get this girl "of your head" by distracting yourself, would not only not work (it's sort of like saying "don't think about pink crocodiles" - not that you were going to, but trying not to think about something basically get you to think about it) but trying to use this opertunity to examine your feelings ad yourself. 

Again, most times when we fall in love it's not so much about the other person but about ourselves.

And if this doesn't work, there's always the method of drinking a lot of alcohol and singing in the street (hay, it works!)


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Wow, You really gave me some stuff to think of. I really appreciate it.


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total.eclipse.co.il: A site for sore eyes.

lilly's answer seems to cover most corners, though I just have to correct her - it's been empirically proven that people can consciously forget if they try not to think of something, despite it seeming counter-intuitive, it actually does work.

Personally - binge drinking is my preferred course of action. 


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Definitely found my answer. Thank you both.


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Excellent answer Lilly,  I'd like to add a little something though.

I thought you would say it but I think you just forgot while explaining. Frank, if you look at her example she mention, even though you get that girl out of your head, some other unreachable or unavailable girl will take place. That's why lilly recommend you take the opportunity to look into yourself.

About examining your feelings and trying to understand why is this happening to you. (like Lilly described), check out the Celestine Prophecy (the book). I think you'll love it and it will make you think about where you are.

As for drinking and singing in the street, that is definitely an awesome idea, unfortunately, it is illegal to do it naked.

 

 


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Is the comfort of Lord, GOD small within you?

Since you have researched her and realized she is a very nice girl it may be time to take an initiative to see if she may be interested in someone with a little more sensitivity.  What may seem as a boyfriend - girlfriend relationship may be just a go between, that is until something else comes along.  It doesn't hurt to ask and believe me it is to your advantage to see what looks so good on the outside is all true!


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