What can I do if a non-custodial parents lives out of state and refuses to return my 17 year old daughter even though the Judge has told him to. When I asked for an police escort so I could go get her I was told that I had to go through their court system (where he lives) because they will not recoginize my custody papers from my state without going through an attorney who will take them to a judge in his state to be recoginized. I do not have the money to do this, and do not understand although we have joint custody I am the domicile parent, our attorney's had a phone conference with the my judge about this matter and he stated that he wanted her home until such time he could confer with her and he still refused to comply and my attorney is telling me there is nothing she can do until it is time for us to go to court on October 31.