Hi! leo:
For lots of us the donkey on the other-side of the fence always looks greener. So we go out and play the fool. And every wit of common sense flies out the window. There's no justification for what our genitals get us into, Note, "I said our genitals thinking that has replaced the common sense between our ears. But Gee!, Sometimes it's our shopping around, or climbing over that fence indicates that there is something missing within our own togetherness,sexually speaking. He or she may want more out of the relationship then they are getting, but due to the fear of Relational-Turn-Off, rejection, by either partner, Well, We just don't ask. Don't know about you, but a man's or a woman's whole body is for loving,and we often are afraid to ask that of the one we love or are closes to, but we have no problem asking it from somone else. Why? Because she or he is just someone to be use, in most cases. And if they won't come through, Well there is always someone else down the pike, road, who will be ready and willing to fill that unmet sexual desire that we crave and long for. I know what he may be feeling in this Unfilled sexual department. I don't ask my wife to give head, oral-sex, but then I do enjoy my eating at the "Y", Doing her orally. But then sexually speaking, you can't always get from here to there, regardless of one's unfulfilled,sexual desires, that his or her significant other won' or can't give. There is a big different between a good lover and a great love, one will do the same Ho-hum sexual- pleasuring,and the other will see about an ongoing spicing-up of their sexual-togetherness. Which one of them are you?