Do guys really not like the "nice" girl? I just recently started dating a guy and we immediately fell for one another. We met through friends at Church and began just hanging out in groups and then started making dates for just the two of us. It moved pretty fast emotionally, not so much physically, although we were still very comfortable with each other. He was the first guy ever that I felt I could really call my boyfriend. I knew that he had just gotten out of a very serious relationship. He was in love with her and they broke up for religious reasons. After two weeks I noticed that he started to distance himself and eventually got it out of him that he "was not good enough for me" and was going through a lot. He was still in love with his ex and even though he wanted to be with me and likes me a lot, he needs a couple weeks to himself and just hopes that I wont be taken by that time. Am I being too nice giving him this time and waiting patiently? Should I move on? I really like him and know that he likes me a lot as well.
My close friend is also really sweet and is constantly letting guys back into her life and giving them second chances when she shouldn't. We were talking about the possibility that we are not presenting them with enough of a challenge by being so supportive and nice. Should we be less tolerant?