My grandma has Alzheimer. Every time time I talk ...

Hi,

I must say that while it may drive you nuts to answer the same questions over and over, you personally forget that there are millions of people who do not even have any grandparents and would kill to be in your situation. It is in your grandmother's best interest not to remind her that she's already asked you a question and you've answered it, as this will only upset her further (especially if she knows she's got Alzheimers). I think you should be patient with her and grateful that you have time to spend with her. So what that you're answering the same question 100 times; the fact is, your visits/talks are what probably make her smile during the day and remind her that she has loved ones who care about her. I only wish I had had someone tell me this before my grandfather passed away.

Alzheimers is a very difficult illness because it totally changes the personality. The ill person is not the same person we knew and loved. I would suggest you just carry on a normal conversation if possible and don't take too seriously the response because your grandmother's brain has unfortunately been affected. Try to always remember her as the person you loved even if it is not easy for you.

I'm sorry your grandma has Alzheimers.  This is such a hard condition for everyone involved, and to see them slip away.

I'm not sure what you would hope to accomplish by telling her she already asked the question.  She doesn't know she is repeating herself.  It will confuse her, and make her feel embarrassed.

You might need to find a support group.  Not necessarily because you don't understand what is going on, but mainly so you can learn from people who have already gone through this before.  You might as well learn from those who have the experience and this might also allow you to vent about you really hate about what is occuring to your grandma.

All the best