I am going through a divorce and the children are ...

The best but not the easiest is for you both to resolve the issues and do get back together. If that is no longer possible, the way to answer would depend on the ages of your children and their ability to understand your response. Prayers are answered by seeing and experiencing the things you prayed for. If these do not come into fruition, everyone must understand that no response is also a response.

It is good to separate both issues. You can explain to your children that when two poeple do not get along sometimes it is better to divorce. On the other hand you can encourage your children to pray for what they wish and tell them that you hope God will answer their prayers and help you to resolve your issues and get back together.

By telling them that sometimes, when you pray, God gives you what you need instead of what you want.  They need for both you and your soon to be ex to be happier with your lives, they need to be able to live their lives with out the stress that you oand your husband's problems cause them.  So in praying, sometimes they get what they need instead of what they want.  Good luck.

There is a Garth Brook's song called Unanswered Prayers.  It puts it in a way that they may be able to understand (along with you opening up discussion about it afterwards).  Even though they may want you to get back together, if you know this absolutely will not happen, you have to explain to them that it's actually for the best, and that even though it may not seem that way now, they may learn to understand that later.

I lost an employee to cancer a few years ago.  He was 40, with 4 kids- a 2 year old and a 4 year old.  His wife asked my why God did not answer her prayers that her husband be saved.  In a recent sermon, our priest talked about that topic.  He said sometimes when you ask God to do something, the answer is "no."  Plain and simple, God said no. 

Now why he said no is the challenge.  If the marriage was a bad environment for the kids and a constant grind for you, maybe the answer is that God wants mommy and daddy to be happy. 

 Bless you in your challenge.

very good answer

jjac