Why does my girlfriend likes me to be abusive ...

Hi, If you are her boyfriend why don't you simply ask her ? We can only guess.... my guess that it turns her, but there are many other possible reasons (e.g: she is fighting against her hidden fears). Best regards,

Everybody is wired different, She may mix fear and sex as enjoyment. Some like to be called names and spanked, and some hate it.

She may have been raped in her younger years and in spite of her fear at the time, she remembers feeling sexual for the first time.  Talk to her yourself and if she won't talk about it, leave her alone.  People are different.  What you two do privately is your business.  If you are not hurting her or she hurting you in any way, then continue to communicate with each other as to your desires.  You could go to therapy and discuss the matter as a couple to get to the root of the reason, but as long as you are both happy with each other, your sex life should be kept private.

Being dominated can be very exciting!  Rough sex is more passionate in some ways, and she may need that high passion level to orgasm.  If you don't enjoy love play like that, it is a different story.  Don't do things that you don't want to do.  You two may not be suited to each other or be compatible in bed.  It is something to think about.  You could compromise also.  Maybe only play rough half of the time.  Unless you talk to her directly and ask her some questions, you will never know the why.

Hi Golosso,

    Your girlfriend has this kind of fetish.  It's up to you to get used to it to please

her sexually by doing what she wants or else, if this bothers you, you need to find a woman who does not have this kind of fetish.  You don't have to stick with her if you feel uncomfortable about it. If you are comfortable with this, you wouldn't have asked this question. 

    My guess is you are not truly compatible with each other.

Sometimes, I'd like it too!

Some women have to be dominant at work and at home (running around after you and doing everything house related e.g. paying bills on time, cooking, cleaning etc) and then to be controlling sex is a bit of a turn off!In bed, often women like to be more vulnerable as pleasing a woman is rather complex and she needs to let go and be 'stripped bare'.

I can only let you into why I like it, that's because by my partner 'forcing himself' upon me is like he finds me really sexy and he can't control himself. She still has the ultimate control because when she says "stop", she means it. It's quite primal really, I just like feeling like i am exclusively his to keep.