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Is my girlfriend cheating on me? how can i be sure? is it just me?

Ok, heres my situation, i met my girlfriend about 3 years ago on a summer holiday, we got on really well and liked each other alot. When i got back i found out she had a bf, but she left him for me after a while.

This is a long distance relationship, i dont see her too often but the love has always been there and at one point we were even talking about marriage and the like.

There were no problems apart from the odd guy who decided he liked her and told to try to make her leave me, it never woked. The first big issue was when her lesbian best friend go her to cheat on me twice, this was at the same time that she told me she thought she was bisexual which i forgave her for and moved on from eventually but there was always a scared doubt in the back of my mind.

About 2 weeks ago now she suddenly got very upset over something, she wouldnt tell me what it was but she took out the emotional downturn on me. And after that she said that she thought we were drifting, which i didnt think we were, i assumed she was just upset. 

As a result of that i doubled my efforts to make her feel loved and after a few days everything felt fine again untill she called me clingy, so i backed off a little bit, but since then she has stopped saying "i love you" almost completely, i asked why and she says shes just pre-occupied at the moment although she isnt telling me what with or anything.

because of that im scared shes found someone else that she likes and likes her back and im not sure how much more of her distancing i can take, i need to know if shes cheating on me or not.

also i have no access to her email, msn, phone, myspace etc.... i need another way to know.

Please help


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Jay
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Glass sculpture, Chihuly at Grant's Farm; http://www.chihuly.com

Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.

  1. What is her age?
  2. Has she ever been pregnant?
  3. Does she have any children?
  4. Has she ever been engaged or married?
  5. At what age did she become sexually active?
  6. Is she living at home? If so, how are the relationships?

That's all the questions I have, Your Honor.

Dynames- If you provide us with some information, we could be of a lot more help to you.

Merry Christmas

JayR

Posted 2008-12-24T02:09:54Z
 

sorry, your right i should have been a bit more informative
in asnwer to your questions -

1. well, im 18, shes 17
2. she hasnt been pregnant
3. she has no children
4. niether engaged nor married
5. i think about 15
6 yeah she is, as far as i know the relationships are fine

Posted 2008-12-24T02:38:55Z
 
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Learn to be a good listner.

First, I'm wondering how old you both are?  Second, if it is a long distance relationship, it might not work.  If there is no ring on her finger, I think she feels she doesn't have to answer to you.  If she already admitted cheating on you, I wouldn't be surprised if she'd do it again.  This sounds like a rocky relationship and in my personal opinion, I would move on.  There are plenty of nice girls out there.  Start over and forget the past.  I see more problems coming.  Sorry if I hurt you, but you asked for my opion.  Good Luck!

Posted 2008-12-24T03:04:41Z
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Jay
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Glass sculpture, Chihuly at Grant's Farm; http://www.chihuly.com

Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.

I see two possibilities-

  1. Scared of commitment
  2. Found someone else

I am leaning toward #2

JayR

Posted 2008-12-24T03:46:21Z
 
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Sounds like she is a very flirty girl to begin with(no offense) and is constantly getting hit on.If she left someone for you,that also tells you something about her character.I think she is definantly seeing someone else and there are feelings involved.I think you should leave her before you get hurt even more.

Posted 2008-12-27T04:33:49Z
 
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Hi Dynames ,  First let me say her best friend did not get her to cheat on you . She CHOOSE to cheat on you , she is responsible for her own actions , no one else is , she is .   Then the bi-sexual issue came out of this and you forgave her . First she says you are drifting away from her , so you make an effort to make sure she knows you love her , then she calls you clingy and has now stopped telling you she loves you .  She is 17 years old and I don't think she knows what she wants . You do not trust her and you shouldn't . I am sorry to say this but yes she's found someone else .  You are 18 years old , got your whole life ahead of you .  I think you need to move on find a girl you can trust , one that loves , respects and values you .  This girl does not feel any of this for you .  You deserve better treatment than this .

Posted 2008-12-28T07:50:05Z
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give up man its done, she is cheating move on

Posted 2009-03-17T01:15:49Z
 
Lee
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Read The Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide. This book is full of great ideas and good advice on what you really need to make a long distance relationship work...

Posted 2009-10-14T17:19:39Z

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