Is my girlfriend cheating?

I guess I'll be as blunt as possible and describe the whole series of events. It started when my girlfriend decided to further her education. We have been together for 3 years now and in all they have been rather great. The only kicker is that she is taking a class with a female, lesbian teacher. They communicate regularly and I have no problems with her having friends. The problem I have is that I found out her email password after addressing said problems ("I feel insecure because you're spending more time with her than me" - to which the reply was "Don't worry.). Anyways after this little argument I still have my suspicions and looked into her emails. Anyways this teacher of her was talking to her and it seemed to be for more than just friends conversations. I found a love poem from my girlfriend to her about kissing, cuddling whatnot that she had sent to this lady and I also had the ladies reply about resting her head on my girlfriends chest. I went into orbit and yelled at my girlfriend. She proceeded to tell me that I was right but in the whole scheme of things. Right now I don't trust her. Mainly from the fact she lied to me and broke the bonds of trust between us. Though she told her friend that I became suspicious and that they probably shouldn't be friends "right now" that I still feel something is happening or going to happen. I guess I was upset that she didn't tell this lady - "I'm sorry for dragging you into this, I love my boyfriend, he's good to me and all I'm really looking for is a friend, nothing more" and "we can't be friends until I straighten this mess out."

I just don't understand a few things. (1) She was with a man for 8 years that cheated on her so she knows how it feels (2) She still keeps in contact with this woman yet not via email (3) I called her the other day to have her "Ignore" the call.

Oh and for the reasons/signs she's cheating I have this:
1. She likes to dress up more when going to school (understandable) but doesn't really do the same at home
2. We got love rings which were meant to signify our love for each other but when she goes to class (this ladies class) she doesn't wear the ring
3. Her friend still calls even though my girlfriend supposedly said her friend understands that she shouldn't.
4. I offered to take her on a trip (even up to 2 years down the road) and she was kind of vague about it. Though she said she would like to go on a trip with this woman (this was before the email BTW)
5. She is changing her music style to more Hip Hop / Dance based. She used to be a big Audioslave fan and whatnot.

I guess in all I'm scared to lose this woman. She's pretty much perfect and I don't know if this is just depression (stress from school) or that she wants someone else other than me. I would be perfectly fine if she came home and said she didn't want to be with me anymore but this secretive shit is for the birds. I've given her all that she's ever asked for and think that I've put in equal parts into the relationship. I guess I want to know if it's worth fighting to keep her, to kick her to the curb, or to keep an ear and eye out and have life play out?

Am I right ot have my suspicions towards her new found friend?

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You must remember there is always a danger in any relationship, when a woman has been abused in any way, by a man in the past.  What many men do not consider is that a woman often needs "TLC", conversation, understanding and tenderness, not only SEX.  Women can often offer this knowing what that person is thinking and feeling.  Often lesbians use this point as a opening for a relationship. Try to be a little more understanding, listen instead of going off the deep end and only acusing her of anyother relationship, the teacher might be hearing a cry for communication, that you are not taking the time to listen to.
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ask if her friend can come to dinner so you can learn more abouit the sicuation take action now or your headed for a whole lot of hell,ps:do not spy or make your friends spy you get cauht it's all over, go on cheaters
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dude she is totally cheating on you. i think you should see her reaction after maybe telling her you want to take a break. if she flips out i dont think shes cheating but if she doesnt care then yeah she is. but when you take a break periodically visit but bring along a girl to meet her. then you would figure out if shes really cheating.
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She is up to no good and you are trying to rationilize her behavior as possibly acceptable based on people's answers to your question...YOU HAVE TWO BIG PROBLEMS.

1) Her interest level in you has fallen and it has not bounced back.

2) You are snooping through her e-mail and admitted it. These actions break her trust of you and encourages her to cheat on you because you come across as weak.

Your only action you may take at this time because she has admitted to some of her bad actions...is to tell her that you do not think she is ready for a realtionship with you right now and to break it off with her...tell her that you do not know or care if she has cheated, but you feel that her actions were disrespectful.

Unfortunately for you is that once a woman or person disrespects, they can not take it back. If you remain friends/boyfriends with that person, they will never respect you if you take them back easily and also your friends and her friends who know about the situation will not respect you either, and you will get a lot of bad energy and negative things will happen to you and you may not understand why.

Unless the person that was disrespectful is willing to make a public appology through e-mail to all the people she knows and you know telling them that she is sorry for her actions and basically KISS YOUR ASS...you are doomed!

In other words...DUMP THAT BITCH!
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She might not have done anything yet, but she sounds curious.  As for perfect, do you really think that her entertaining the idea of a lesbian affair makes her perfect??  Is she perfect physically?  Because please, be aware that looks have very little to do with maintaining a deep personal relationship once you get past the initial dating phase.  If you're basing a relationship on appearances, don't be surprised when you find yourself unhappy; a tight behind will only be tight for so long, and then what do you do when gravity kicks in?  Smile

But seriously, trust your instincts where the cheating is concerned.  When you are with someone for awhile, you get something of a sixth sense about them.  If your gut says she is cheating, she probably is.  From everything you've said, it sounds like she is growing, in many ways, and growing away from you.  Either figure out a way to grow with her, or let her go; you're heading for a bad break up as things stand now!
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