How do you know if you girlfriend cheated bringing in the New Year ...

Hi,

I think you should get your act together. I can't understand how you can be so much in love with her while cheating with some other girls. You justify that by saying you didn't love them. Does that make it OK for you and not for her? I think you should take off some time and leave your gf alone and grow up. When you can honestly feel that you are ready for a serious relationship then you can start again.

Ok, so I actually felt some sympathy for you until you got to the part of the story where you cheated on her several times. I think that if your girlfriend told you that she was drunk on her brother's couch then you should believe her. Perhaps your mistrust reflects your own actions and mistrust in yourself instead of in her. Because you have cheated, then you expect her to do the same. There needs to be trust in a relationship and it is not ok to cheat at all. If it is bothering you so much that it took her so long to call you back, then you should talk to her about it. Honestly is the best policy in a loving relationship and it is directly related to trust. Talk to her and let her know what is bothering you.

I think she's a fool if she stays with you...a self-professed cheater who has serious control freak tendancies.The trust in your relationship is already broken because you crossed the line and set the precedent.Why shouldn't she sleep with someone else?You taught her that it's a completely forgivable act!You obviously have some problems to work out amongst yourselves and it starts with YOU.

Ok you are pissed because you think she cheated on you and you are hurt and yet You've only cheated on her a few times.  WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS SITUATION!!  Why is it so hard for you men to be faithful.  You think it is ok but you didn't love those other women.  Thank your lucky starts your girlfriends name is not Lorrana Bobbitt.  This is what they call KARMA.  It sounds like you are already wasting your time in relationships periods!!! You need to find the one girl that makes you only see her.  One time cheating can be forgiven.  But TWICE??? It is hard for me to understand the hurt you are feeling when you have cheated the times you have.  When you meet that special person you know when it happens.  No other person is on your mind when you are together or apart.  You can look at the cookie jar all day long that is part of human nature, as long as you don't try any of the cookies.  I really hope you find that person because I must say it is worth the wait...GOOD LUCK to you

OK, here's that "rest of the story . . . . "  She WAS on your brother's couch and probably drunk as she claimed.   For that matter, he phone was probably in her purse (good a place as any to put you phone).  But she never said she wasn't doing something else on that couch other than sleeping.  And she probably heard the phone ring in the faint distance, but wasn't about to tell that hot guy to get off her in the heat of the moment.  And, if she's anything like me, she's thinking, the a**hole has it coming. 

first of all,why don't you trust her?could it be cause you have cheated on her,so you automatically think that she's cheating too?you say that you feel that she doesn't value or respect your relationship......well,babe,you are the one who doesn't value or respect the relationship!the fact that you had sex with other girls,means that YOU can't be trusted!you don't love her,if you did,you would never have cheated on her!you're just upset that maybe she's the one doing the cheating now!

The old 'passed out on the brothers couch' line, eh? Yeah, don't fall for it bro, she was probably passed out from getting pounded. Yall both cheatin so quit wasting each others time. Just call it quits.