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How do you know if you girlfriend cheated bringing in the New Year ...

How do you know

If your girlfriend is cheating? New Years I spent with my family and from what she tells me she spent with hers.

The only difference is I called her serveral times around 12:00 to tell her I love her etc.... we would work out our problems.

 She didn't answer her phone in fact  she didn't call me back till 8:00pm the next day! Of course I was extremley pissed and ruined my night. But her excuse was that she was drunk on her brothers couch and she had her phone in her purse which made it even worse.

I want to believe her story

But it sounds like such a bullshit and I mean the frist thing I though about when NEW YEARS came was her.. And I thought it will be the same.

 

I really don't know what to do because I'm deeply hurt and I really am thinking about breaking up because I feels she doesn't vaule our realtionship or respect 

 What should I do? Do you think she was cheating around 12:00 thats why she couldn't answer let me know I really need help on this one. I mean I cheated on her before but onl

y a few times and I don't love any of those girls. But no call on New Years!! because your wasted I would be a fool to stay with her wouldn't I? Or does she want me to break up with her and that is like her way of telling me.. I'm clueless but I know I don't want to spend 2008 waisting my time in a bullshit realtionship!

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Love is the battery of life....

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True, you have some good reasons to suspect, but don't forget that you might be wrong and what she said is simply true......  Good relations are built on 3 pillars: Trust + Openess + Communicatin.  If you don't trust her you'll never be able to build good relations with her..... you'll always suspect that she is cheating you..... each time you'll not be with her you'll suspect.... and that will "kill" you and your relations...... so you have to decide: If she is a person you can't trust, leave her as soon as possible, BUT, if you can trust her you must give her 100% credit and trust her with no doubts... I strongly suggest that you have an open discussion with her about that matter (trust) and how you (both) build the trust between you.  
What bothers me even more is that you are thinking on breaking those relations as if they don't matter to you too much.....  that is not very promising..... Relations are not an icecream: "Shall I have it or give it up ?"..... 
Best regareds,
Posted 2008-01-02T09:15:45Z
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Ok, so I actually felt some sympathy for you until you got to the part of the story where you cheated on her several times. I think that if your girlfriend told you that she was drunk on her brother's couch then you should believe her. Perhaps your mistrust reflects your own actions and mistrust in yourself instead of in her. Because you have cheated, then you expect her to do the same. There needs to be trust in a relationship and it is not ok to cheat at all. If it is bothering you so much that it took her so long to call you back, then you should talk to her about it. Honestly is the best policy in a loving relationship and it is directly related to trust. Talk to her and let her know what is bothering you.

Posted 2008-01-02T12:19:24Z
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I think you should get your act together. I can't understand how you can be so much in love with her while cheating with some other girls. You justify that by saying you didn't love them. Does that make it OK for you and not for her? I think you should take off some time and leave your gf alone and grow up. When you can honestly feel that you are ready for a serious relationship then you can start again.
Posted 2008-01-02T19:58:34Z
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MY inferiority complex isn't as good as YOURS

I think she's a fool if she stays with you...a self-professed cheater who has serious control freak tendancies.The trust in your relationship is already broken because you crossed the line and set the precedent.Why shouldn't she sleep with someone else?You taught her that it's a completely forgivable act!You obviously have some problems to work out amongst yourselves and it starts with YOU.
Posted 2008-01-02T22:04:39Z
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The old 'passed out on the brothers couch' line, eh? Yeah, don't fall for it bro, she was probably passed out from getting pounded. Yall both cheatin so quit wasting each others time. Just call it quits.
Posted 2008-01-06T07:16:26Z
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Fool me once,

shame on you!!

Fool me twice,shame on me!

first of all,why don't you trust her?could it be cause you have cheated on her,so you automatically think that she's cheating too?you say that you feel that she doesn't value or respect your relationship......well,babe,you are the one who doesn't value or respect the relationship!the fact that you had sex with other girls,means that YOU can't be trusted!you don't love her,if you did,you would never have cheated on her!you're just upset that maybe she's the one doing the cheating now!
Posted 2008-01-08T23:25:56Z
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True... But does it make it right? Or justify her actions? No it doesn't we broke up for good on the 7th come to find out she had another before she been cheating with the entire 3 years I've been with her.. She just a average slut and I wish I would have know that.. but I'll be fine I wanted to know though. I did love her and the times I did cheat I felt guilty and didn't continue it.. Da fact of da matter I'm stupied for falling in love with a slut bucket...
Posted 2008-01-09T03:40:58Z
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Ya, turned out she was probally sucking some cock...  didn't admit to cheating on New Years of course. But I took her phone when she was sleep the otha day and she had my number as "BROTHER" and this otha guy she been seeing "Chrissy Pooh" I have a key to her house so I walked n when she was sleeping. I almost snapped and I would be in jail right now... But hi you can't turn a hoe into a houses wife.. I know I can do better just glad it all came out..

I returned da key got all my stuff haven't spoke to her sense..
Posted 2008-01-09T03:46:39Z
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