Is my gf cheating on me?

Matt> You are def in the middle of something here... I cant tell you if she is or isnt cheating... but I can offer you a little female insight... OK... first her body has went thru hell and back and hormonally shes been on a roller coaster even she prob is not consciencely aware of... when baby came into pic... mommy got a new hat to wear... her first priority became MOM... once we transition into Mom role... we inadvertantly start to shift and base our entire life around this role... add the fact she is in school... she seems to have put your relationship on the back burner... see women unlike the typical male are much more intrical when it comes to sex... it is not just a hobby or pass time type thing... it is largely based on feelings and the way we feel about ourselves... I would guess after reading what you wrote... correct me if Im wrong... but you arent romantic... after the child was born... how many times have you arranged for her to take off the Mommy hat and try on her old sexy shoes??? Have you got a sitter (often) and taken her out to dinner?? Have you brought flowers home fro no reason to let her no you love her??? Have you ever approached her without the expectation of sex and told her how sexy and attracted you still are to her??? How many times have you 2 escaped together for a wkend retreat??? Women will not normally emotionally detatch as you have described without feeling neglected for a long period of time... I know its tough with a child, bills, school, and work but if you dont tend to each others needs... you sacrifice your relationship  What is happening now with your gf is... she is getting some kind of stimuli from the other person... she is starting to invest... but the question is... are you willing to fill the void she has or are you willing to take the chance of letting another man do it??? I say...Call in reinforcements... babysitter... wkend getaway... wine and dine her... make her feel loved and make the world revolve around her... dont be stingy with the compliments and good luck:))

Hi Matt,
You seem to be an open person so I'll take the liberty to be totally open with you.   I read carefully your notes.  It seems that your relation deteriorated steadily untill you reached a very low point.  You are more like 2 people living in the same appartmet (well with your son).  You (both) had to attend to it long ago (marriage counseling).  Sinch you didn't do it she might do the mistake and find attention (and even love) from someone else (sorry !).  If you still love her better try hard, very hard, the best you can, to bring your relations ( + love) back to track.  Don't give up, and don't blame only her...... you have a big share too. 
Best regards,

GR8 answer my friend Geminigrl, 2 thumbs up.  If I saw your answer I wonder if I would have anything to add. GR8 answer !. 

Are you picking up any of the slack??  Are you taking care of the baby? Are you doing the cleaning?  You seem to have all this free time.  If you took care of some of the household stuff, maybe she would have more time for you.  I get the feeling she feels you are doing nothing.  She is working so hard, and you aren't contributing much.  Time to chip in and take away some of her stress.  There is more to being a man than going to work.  You made that baby too.  You should be taking care of the baby as much as possible.

Usually where there is smoke there's fire. It's possible they could be just friends & she needs someone to talk to. The financial situation your in is probably putting a strain on the relationship. My advise would be to talk to her & not say anything about the text messages. But may be tell her your not accusing her of anything but for some strange reason you have a feeling something isn't right. Chances are she will deny anything is going on but her reaction to your statement may speak volumes. Never hurts to go fishing just watch your approach. Good luck !