most gay people are looking for a partner love and spend time, not someone they have to give counseling to. Find a counselor that can help you with this. Preferably a gay counselor. take your time before coming out, thats number one. You want to say the right thing at the right time. Your real friends will understand and stick around your so called friends will dissaapear. Those you don't need. itslike a beginning of a new life. For now you can try going to gay clubs and bars and just make small chat ask questions. do not feel like you have to sleep around. You make that choice--always be safe, safe, and safe !!! i can not stress enough!!! 
