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The guy i am currently dating has abest friend that happens to be a women with whom he has shred a lot of secrets and personal things with in the past. She is married and has been for several years to her husband, and my boyfriend swears it has always been purly a friendship realtionship. Sometimes i feel like he shares a little to much with her and should want to talk to me about things that bother him. Am i wrong for feeling this way?


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Nooooooooooo, you are absolutely right.  Even if you believe him that their relations are 100% friendly still he is in deep emotional relations !......  yes, no doubt..... will you be a close friend with someone you hate ? will you open your heart to someone that you feel nothing to ?  Oh, no.... she is doing certain "duties" that you should have been doing as his girlfriend.....  it's you that he has to tell his secrets, it's you that he has to consult with, it's you that he has to open his heart to, it's you that he has to share personal things from the past.....  Would he accept if you have the same relations with a man ? .... we both know the answer.....  So, discuss (open and deep) that matter with him...... don't accept it.... it's far from being normal.....  No offence please but I have the impression that he is in deep love with her and hopes that she'll be some day free for him.....  If he chosed you 2B his girlfriend he should care only about you, share his life only with you, and be devoted 2U only..... Sorry to be too direct and appologies if my words hurt you in any way. 
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OronD is right and you should take comfort that a lot of newlyweds (3 years or less) go through this, whether it is a best friend, parents, siblings, etc.

 

The whole point of marriage is that you can lean on each other for strength.  He's not leaning on you, so you have a clear message he doesn't trust you.  So how can you trust him with anything you say as it will go beyond the confines of your marriage.

 

You need to lean on each other.  This will take a great deal of work and you need to talk and listen to him about it.  And you need to set boundries.  You need to be a united front in your life together.  If you can't do that together, what is the point of marriage.

 

I'm not saying that he or you can't let off steam and go to talk to people about marriage or little things in life.  But there has to be boundries.

 

 

 

 


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