How do you deal with everyone around you ...

I have been married 8 years. Every single member of my family and my husbands family has at least three children. All my friends have at least two children. At one point in time, every single person I knew was expecting. I kept telling them all that I was too busy with school to get pregnant. Now I am done with school. I have no other excuse to give them. Now what I tell them is that I am trying to get pregnant and that if it does not happen after a year my husband and I will see a doctor. The truth is I am home resting after an IVF/ICSI tranfer. No one knows but my mother. I really can't deal with anyone else and thier questions.

But back to your question. Just let them know you are trying and that will shutthem up. Hope this helps.

I know what you're going through. If you can, say something like, "I'm so happy for you!" Sometimes it's really hard to manage to say anything at all, so I'd prepare some kind of automatic answer like, "Oh, when are you due?" - something that you won't have to think about.

When people ask why you haven't gotten pregnant yet, you can choose one of several approaches like:

"We would like to have a child someday." and then if they ask, "Why not now?" You can say, "When we have news, we'll let you know."

"We discovered it wasn't going to be as easy as we'd expected." and then if they're nosy and ask why, you can say, "We've decided not to discuss it." or, "We found out Kevin's sperm count is nothing to write home about." or, "We're actually going for our 2nd IVF on Thursday."

Just make sure to share only what you planned on sharing. Unfortunately, infertility makes for interesting gossip... I recommend this article written by Dr. Rona Michelson about keeping your marriage together during infertility.

Good luck!
Rachel Inbar
www.fertilitystories.com

Questions of this nature can be difficult to answer and perhaps even more so to ignore. the reality is that other than diverting or adding a positive or humerous spin to the answer so that you don't offend others who are just "curious", there's no much you can do.

RInbar had a good answer so stick to something like that. But most importantly keep a positive attitude.  Remember "you will get what you desire the most", it is a fact of life, your mind makes it happen.

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First I want to say hang in there.  Its really hard being a woman and not being able to instantly get pregnant.  Im 23 and Im almost finished with school myself and trying to have a baby.  My fiance has been trying for about a year and nothing has happenend.  Im starting to feel discouraged.  almost all of my friends have kids.  my best friend is oregnant right now.  I think you should tell your friends and family to back off and that you'll have a baby when the time is right.  Tell them you're not in such a rush as the rest of the world to have children.  Its nice to be able to live a little and have freedom before having a kid.  Once you have a child you are tied and handcuffed for the next 18 years.  God bless and I hope you te best 

I have been trying to conceive since the past 1.2 months, failing every time. I am at the lowest point at every "end of the month". And I have a group of friends of my husband where all the wives are way younger than me and get pregnant at the drop of an hat and make me touch their tummy's to feel the babies movements.

BUT at the end of the day I know I have a strom inside me but even know that these people are concerned about me so when they ask me I say "WELL MY BABY WILL TAKE TIME COZ ITS A SPECIAL BABY IN THE MAKE" or "we are trying, pray for us"

And if someone is nasty, smile and say " don't worry about me so much dear their are more important things in life to think about, just chill"

And most of all be happy for your friends pregnancy and try to shoo all thought about your inability to conceive yet and think mine is on the way i will be happy like her soon!!!

Lots of baby dust to you!

actully really sucks .. makes me very sad .. jsut hate how its so easy for everyone else around me .. but i am happy to say i have a full time donor and i have done 2 inseminations this month so im waiting ..un patiently but im waiting lol to find out :)

I tell them I am infertile and enjoy the look on their face.

When they ask me with an attitude I tell them.. "We wanted to have children, but then we met yours, and we stopped trying. Since condoms are not 100% baby proof, we stopped having sex, to be on the safe side."

 When family asks me "We are having a terrible time financially, but if your willing to cover the expenses I'd be glad to have 2-3 kids"

In others words, it's none of any body's business so they don't need to ask, snoop, or brag about babies.