What is this feeling? What do I do about it?

Hey guys, you do such a great job with my other questions, that i have another.  Me and this girl have been going out for about a year and 2 months.  We are wonderful together, and i really feel like this is the girl i would like to spend the rest of my life with.  I kno that people say teenage love is usually an infatuation, but i am pretty sure this is real this time, i just have that feeling.

To add to this, we get along great, and so do our families.  Personally it is the perrfect relationship.  However, recently my feelings for her have grown even larger than usual.

We hug, kiss, m.o from time to time.  She is ok with me touching her under her shirt, but usually only around the lower back.  We both have a strict belief in no sex untill after marriage, but i cant help this feeling inside of me about her.  I do not know if she feels the same for sure, but i think she feels the same way.  We try to talk about this, but never find the time. 

So, this is my question to you, this deeper feeling that i have for her, what is it?  is there some way to satisfy it without having sex?  It is important to note i respect her boundaries 100%, and anything tht she is not comfertable with i will not do.  Is there a way i can express these feelings to her without pushing her boundaries?

It would be a great help if you guys had any advice, i really want tto let these feelings show.


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harryvan
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There is usually a wide gap between physical and emotional maturity where our bodies mature much faster than our emotions and that is why you often feel  overcome with deep emotion and feelings for your gf. You both sound like you were brought up to recognize the right and wrong in life. But you are both too immature to break down those boundaries that you both have and feel are correct. Try to just have fun with each other without going into a physical elationship for which you are both not ready to deal with its consequences. Respect her boundaries and do nothing to compromise them because if you do, you might possibly be faced with her guilt feelings that will be directed to you because you were the one. Don't try to grow up too quickly into a complex adult world and just enjoy being where you both are.
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
You are a real smart sensetive (teenager) gentlemam. 
1.  Your realtions are simply great.
2.  Sure you love her truely and deeply.
3.  Yes she is the one for you.
4.  What you feel is simply strong passion.  It's
     normal and expected. 
5.  You didn't specify what are her exact
     boundaries.... She can satisfy you without
     having real sex (some do consider it sex !). 
     I hope I don't have to be more specific.
6.  You are right to respect her boundaries and right
     not to try and push it.  That's very considerative !.
7.  Yes you can express your feelings.  Simply discuss
     it with her, in your sensetive gentle way.  Tell
     her, in advance that you respect her boundries,
     that you won't do anything that might make her
     feel uncomfortable but steel have a problem and 
     wish to solve it (need her cooporation).  
Best regards,     

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Marry her.  Then no more questions.  Show that you want the full commitment.  If she says no then she doesn't love you like you love her.
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Thanks Oron, your comments mean a lot.  REally, her boundaries are anything that would SEEM remotely sexual for the time being.  Thank you for the WONDERUL advise.
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it is unrealistic to pretend there is nothing physical.  As a man, I'm telling it to you like the Karate Kid.

Left or Right.  Middle Squash like fly.

      
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