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I completely understand what you are going through. I have been there before. You said that you liked him for a while before you started dating. You probably fantasized about being with him and built him up in your head. When he became available then he lost the excitement of being unattainable. The challenge was over. Sometimes the chase is more exciting than the catch. What you need to do is remember why you liked him in the first place. It is unhealthy to like someone only because you cannot or do not have them. Spend time with him and get to know him as he is, not as the person that you imagined him up to be. Hopefully, you will fall for the real him. Good luck.

This happens to both men and women all the time. Each person experiences this at least once in their lifetime. I side with the answers you've been given above. This usually happens when you have so many fantasies about that person; its like, in your mind you already pictured him to be/act in a certain way and unfortunately because it didnt turn out to be the way you thought it would, you feel disappointed.

But you need to open up your heart, use your mind's eye and see through him for who he is and not what you imagined him to be. Cos you never know; may be what you felt for him really still exists, but cos you had your mind focused and clouded by one thing, you can't seem to find it. Remember what about him made you even have him as a friend; what made you attracted to him; what about him made him different from other guys you had as friends, for you to have singled him out from the rest.

Another yedda user lovedoctor71 referred me sometime to this website. There could be some information in it that could help re-surface those feelings within.

But if you still think you can't/don't love him, feel the same way around/with him, you need to let him know about it, so that he shouldn't "build castles in the air" --- having hopes, dreams and making plans for both of you for the future. It will be a selfish thing to do, if you dont tell him in due time that you dont wonna be with him, so he could find the strength to move on. Remember, it takes time to mend and heal a broken heart. You need to be true to yourself and to him aswell. Wish you goodluck.

How long do you think you can continue based on the fact that you don't want to hurt him because it would be hurt him? How about you and the time you have invested and his reaction when he hears that you have been seeing him all this time even though you had no feelings for him? You are heading for a dead-end so it is up to you to put a stop to this relationship. Any hurt you cause now will be minimal to the hurt you will then cause.

let him go, it's not a long term relationship and believe it or not he will get over it. you are ready to move on and so will he. if we were talking about a marraige i would deff tell you to work it out but were not so by all means let him go. obvisiously, he's not the one, lol. you'll know when you find "that one". so don't sweat the small stuff. he'll be fine.