Always feeling Horny

Hi,

If I understand what you are saying, you are recently out of a serious relationship and are looking for a fun fling/rebound to tide you and your sexual urges over until you find another guy of interest. Is this true? If so, then I don't think that you should use this time to approach guys who have potential for something more serious than just sex. If you are just looking to satisfy your sexual needs, and I would usually not encourage this, however you are an adult and seem to need a "quick fix", then you need to look for something that is soley physical. If you are not in the market for a "lover," then focus your energy on other aspects of your life. Stay active and focus on work. Pick up on new hobbies that will distract you from your "horniness" and get involved in different social activities. If this doesn't work, there are also ways to pleasure yourself in the meantime until you find a partner to join you. This very much depends on your feelings towards sex, and whether you can isolate the emotional from the physical. Good luck!

I know that for me, when I was single, it was really hard to put myself out there and make sexual buddies - I'm shy and insecure and after a long relationship I really felt like "I'm out of the game". Well, the cool thing about the way the world is now is the internet, as a woman who's just looking for a sex partner no-strings-attached, you are probably the hottest commodity there can be...

Myspace is a really good way to meet new people, I have a friend who met a whole bunch of cool guys on craig's list, facebook have a lot of regional groups to meet people in your area and so on (just put "I'm a fun loving girl who want to meet new people" or something in your profile and see what happens...).

Betty, we all go through it.  What you need to do is recenter your sexual enegry.  This improves your whole being and when you find yourself, again you can use this sexual enegry when you need to use it not when your mind tell you to.  The Female Guide to Sensual Pleasures, is a book by a sex therapist Teresa Katz.  It resets the mind and gives you powers to control and use these powers when you want to use them.  You will then find yourself taking whatever you want, you will never need to wait for anyone or anything again.  If masturbating andoesn't help this book will.  Reset your mind and empower yourself to be the best sensual being you can be.

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Hi Betty,

    I understand the way you feel.  Having sex just because you're horny won't give good results,  you may have an orgasm, but don't you think you really have to be careful in your choice of the man who gives you this pleasure?

   We are basically animals with animal instincts, but God gave us free will to do the right thing and that sets us apart from the lower forms of animals.  You are acting and talking like you are one of those animals. 

   If you freely have sex with any man , then you are inviting trouble.  Contracting STD's is one form of punishment for some of peoples craziness and indiscretion.  Can't you wait for a nice  compatible man who will give you pleasure with exclusivity, not worrying of getting STD's ? someone who will make love to you because he truly cares and not just use your body for his sexual pleasure? someone who will respect you and take you as you are and won't take advantage of your horniness?

   Think about this,  I am just giving an advice as if I'm giving it to a sister, with no malice or judgment.

   Take care.