How to feel loved by your husband again

Wow!  It sounds like you have your hands full with a seven year old and a set of twins, bless your heart.  With all that I'm wondering why your husband would be so cruel as to tell you he had a girlfriend and then say it was made up?  Either way you look at it that is a head game and is downright mean.  Is this out of character for him to say such things or has he said things to upset you before?  Men sometimes tend to say things without realizing how badly they have hurt someones feellings whereas women come from a more emotional standpoint.  Maybe you could get a relative to watch the kids for you so you and your husband could have some alone time and talk this out.  Obviously something is wrong on his end or he wouldn't have said something so awful.  Maybe something is stressing him out and without meaning to he said what he said about having a girlfriend because he is having difficulty expressing what is really on his mind.  I hope everything works out for you.  All marriages have ups and downs (I know, I've been married for 25 years).  Please don't give up until you have tried  to talk and work things out.  Good luck!

Hi AAC ,   Myyou have to be a busy lady , does your husband help out with the children ?   What your husband said is disrespectful and yes down right cruel .   Do you believe he made it up or do you believe he was upset and spoke the truth and is now trying cover his backside ?  Tell him how badly he's hurt you and you no longer feel he loves you .   This is not normal behavior from a man who is suppose to love his wife, the mother of his children .  You two need to talk , find out what is going on with your husband , is he  comitting adultery , and if not why did he feel  compelled to say such a hurtful thing to you .  He's planted a seed in your head that he is being unfaithful , he's taken what is a precious gift of love the intimacy between husband and wife   , and he's made you believe he's shared that with someone else , he's shaken your trust and your respect for him .  You should feel safe in his arms and you no longer do .  You have 3 children the two of you need to get in to marriage counseling and try to save your marriage  , it can be done as long as both of you are willing and honest with one another and there is not interference from outside the marriage , if you get my drift .

There is no majic wand..i suggest marriage counceling, it is a process, give it time and your all, and you will benefit from the experience.

GOOD LUCK!

Go easy on yourself! I suggest an open discussion with him and tell him your concerns and feelings. Try to pick a time when you have a sitter so that you won't be interrupted. Depending on how the conversation goes,  try to think about the things about him that made you fall in love. Good luck!

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