I fancy a married man

You are absolutely playing with fire. I think if you are a real friend, you will backoff completely from the friendship and let him live his life with his wife. Go out and find someone who is not married to fancy. You deserve someone who will fancy you and only you.

Oron and lovedoctor are so correct. You need to move on and away from this relationship. Most times in relationships like this everyone ends up getting hurt and no one being together.

Please for your sake and theirs, find yourself another man to fall in love with. In the end you will thank us all. 

Good luck and best wishes. 

STOP!! You will destroy a happy marriage (he loves his wife) you will destroy yourself. Move on and look for a healthy and no destructive relationship or are you afraid of getting into one. Be honest to yourself.

Well, if you fancy (fancy, fancy, I wonder if we're British) the guy, and he fancies you, maybe he isn't in a happy marriage after all.  As I've read on your other posts... a truly happy person in a marriage has no interest in anyone but his/her partner.

So get in there and be somebody! 

i also have been having a affair with a married man and he cannot leave me alone i have tried to tell him no more ,he is not going to leave her and i really do not want him too, for she knows he is in love with me so why does he stay with her is he waiting for me to say ok i have had enough leave her or leave me alone and i do love him and yes we have everything in common and the sex after 6 years is great and justs gets better,he calls me 4 to 5 ties a day and i just cannot let go not now so should i push him or forget him i have been widowed for 15 years and he is everything i want in a man but she will always be in the middle of us for he says she could not survive without his money and she works and just does not care they do not have a sex life and he is miserable when i tell him i cannot see him,and i am too,but i have a life too and i can;t afford to wait for him for he is 71 and very sexual and i am 60 and any advise would be greatly welcomed for i feel like he is using me as a sex toy and then the way he loooks and acts tells me he does love me ,help in ga.

Betty, how old are you?  You need to wake up and smell the coffee.  He is not leaving his wife for you.  End this right now and have more respect for yourself.  He is having the best of both worlds.  He is with you and then he goes HOME to HER.  NOT YOU.  Don't you get it.  Find someone who will love you and nobody else.  Why would you want a guy who tells you he is in love with his wife.  Sorry but that's how I feel.  Good Luck.