About 4 months ago my boyfriend left me because my ...

Letta,

   If you don't have money to see a Psychiatrist, that's OK,  you just need to stay away from these men.  First of all, think about your children.  They need you.  Be strong emotionally.  Life does not end because you don't have controlling men.

Don't worry about men at this time, concentrate on improving your life, I don't know if you are working, if you do, have other worthwhile goals.  If you're busy trying to make your life better and to improve you and you kids' quality of life, you will not have time to get depressed.

    Take care.

Letta, DB Lady has given you some good advice.

Now, I am not clear on how your ex-boyfriend can break up with you on the same day your boyfriend leaves you. Were you seeing both men at the same time? If so, please avoid that kind of mistake in future. It's not good form.

I am also confused on your being engaged and in love, but with a controlling boyfriend. Which one is the controlling boyfriend? Is he the one to whom you were engaged? And is he one of the above mentioned men who left you or broke up with you?

Letta, you need to get it together.

First, get your medical problems addressed. Next, seek out a counselor who will work on a sliding scale. If you are low income, you may perhaps even qualify for free services. You will never know if you don't try.

Life can seem hard sometimes; we have all been there. You have not "done" anything to "deserve" this, it's just what's happened. Your job now is to go on from here.

Take it one day at a time and do your best to focus on the primary goals, as DB Lady says. Right now, those are you and your children.

Forget about the boyfriend, the ex-boyfriend, the ex-husband and the fiance.

Good luck and take care,

jkgrandma 

Letta , Good advice from DB Lady & JK .  Your X Boyfriend can't use you on weekends or any other day of the week unless you allow him to . So number one STOP allowing this to happen to you . If you had a loving relationship with trust you'd still be together regardless of any story your X Husband made up . Cut both of these men out of your life it is apparent they have brought and are bringing you only pain , misery and sorrow . 

DB Lady & JK are right think of your children , you do not want to leave them with their own pain and sorrow of losing their Mother .  Such a tragedy will scar them for the rest of their lives , you don't want to do this to your children . I see you live in London , what state are you in ?  Check and see what assistance is available for you for counseling and health care , get in to counseling immediately .  I am sure there is a church in your area that you can seek help from .   God Bless You Letta , I will say a Prayer for you .

I agree with each of the others but I feel that you should be praying to God for blessings strength and guidance and get to a local church on a regular basis meet people @church fill them in on what you are going through and between them and God you will get everything you need. Good Luck!

Letta, according to your profile, you are in your 30s.  To me that says that your children are very young.  You know in your heart that they should be your first priority, not your husband to be, your boyfriends, or any man other than their father. 

Your question was sent to me by a good friend who thought I could help you.  I do want to do that, but it will take cooperation on your part.  First of all, you must have some sort of welfare help in your shire to get you to the proper dentist.  Get your teeth fixed immediately and then continue to take better care of your health....and that means.....try letting go of the idea that you need a man in your life. 

It sounds to me as if you've had too many to deal with and I'm sure your children are suffering.  I had rather you see a minister in your area who can help you find the services you need for you and your children to survive.  After you are healthier and your children are well, if you meet a decent man who loves you and refuses to use you, then count your blessings. 

 In the meantime, stop all the sleeping around (which is what your question sounds like)and pay more attention to your health, both mental and physical. 

 I will be hoping and praying that you will do as so many have instructed and write back in a few weeks/months and let us know how much better your life has become.  Love and God's blessings to you, NJoy