I am very upset of the fact that people including ...

I am very upset of the fact that people including my husband, Parents and in-laws think that I react very fast towards any action. Meaning if it is negative or positive situation they think I react in a very wrong way. I have been married for 7 years and till date something or the other situation comes where I am declared wrong and the culprit. Everybody things my reactions are bad. Please help as I am really suffering and can not bear this pain that I am responsible for whatever relations I have with my family. My mother in law has started hating me, my father in law anyways talk less with me. My husband time to time keeps a check on me whether I am behaving properly with everybody in the family. My husband's brother and his wife talk very less with me and sometimes I feel that they are jealous and unhappy with me. I am feeling awful. As everybody has a way of reacting to a situation and same is the case with my family members. There are times when there reactions are really bad and I feel that they have reacted in a wrong way. But I cannot say anybody. As they all think that they are all fine and sensible. There reactions are normal. Please let me know how to now react to this situation. I just keep putting my ego down and start improving myself now and then. But I am hating this situation of mine. I hate to change for those people who don't want to change for me. But still I am doing it.........what to do. I am from India. And in India once you get married you just cannot think of leaving the house and think of doing what you want to do.